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writes:It's been almost a year since my boyfriend and me are in a relationship. My boyfriend was initially very sweet, loving, caring. He would call every now and then just to say "i miss you" or "i love you". But of late, there has been a drastic change in his behaviour. Since the last week I've been observing that he cares little about me and is even reluctant to call me. Moreover, he has got some excuse or the other lined up for not calling me; and at times he avoids taking my calls or answering my texts.I've tried talking to him about this but to no avail. We are in a long-distance relationship and as such it isn't possible for us to meet often. So phone calls, texts and of course the internet are the only media that we can connect through.N.B. 3 months back we broke up on a not-so-good issue. He was unfaithful to me and was going around with someone else secretly. I dumped him but again patched up under certain conditions. He confessed all his guilt, gave me all the passwords of his accounts and his friends' numbers. My trust was in the process of getting reconstructed, when this sudden change in demeanour shook the base of my faith again. I really love this guy a lot but can't get treated like this. I've developed doubts regarding his actions and can't confide in him like before.Please, help me out. What should I do? Reply soon, please.
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reader, [email address blocked]  +, writes (19 June 2010):
"But of late, there's been a drastic change in his behavior" How long is "of late"? How long was he very sweet and caring? Did his behavior suddenly change, or has it happened gradually over the past year? Long Distance relationships have their own logistical issues, i.e. being able to meet up.How many times have you "guyz" actually met together?If your guy won't talk to you, write him a letter, write down how you really feel. If you get no reply, say within 2 weeks (depends on whether he's away from home a lot of the time). If he doesn't even acknowledge your letter, let alone answer it, you "already know the answer"....Hope all works out for best for you, hun... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): be honest honey seems like something else is occupying him. you do not deserve this treatment. having access to passwords etc is no way to conduct this relationship,you have no trust. i understand it hurts because you care for him and its painful not knowing what hes feeling. unfortunately most men react like this, ignorance is bliss!! you can either hold out and wait for him to contact you or dump him and move on. the pain will ease with time and you can find someone who respects you. focus on the future,consider that he will always make you feel this way. remember its not your fault,hes the one with the problem. hope it works out.
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