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*arzyzarzar
writes:Iv been wiv my bf 3 years hes 19 im 27. Because of our age gap the relationship has been quite secretive and i think this has lead 2 a lot of problems. Now he cheats all the time. Hes never had sex because ive always caught him 1st but i dont wanna split with him. I have 2 children and agoraphobia and need him. I love him so i just want him 2 b happy with me so he doesn't do it anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, Zarzyzarzar +, writes (3 July 2008):
Zarzyzarzar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm not so badly Agoraphobic viat i dont take my children out ect i just always have 2 b with somebody and i do get help that i have asked 4 from the school dr's etc for the kids and am waiting 4 a Cpn 2 c me. The thing is i do need him 2 go out as i haven't got the help of family or friends and he has drained me so much that i dont have the strength to leave him and want him to be man enough to do it!
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reader, andyb  +, writes (3 July 2008):
get rid of this guy before he sucks the life out of you and turns you into a mad woman.
have faith, you will meet somebody who loves you as much as you love them.
and you have to think of your children, he is not a good role model for them.
good luck.
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reader, O Connor +, writes (3 July 2008):
 i hate to sound harsh but you need him like a hole in the head he is immature, selfish, disrespectful and a downright disgusting person. it anything this person being in your life will only make you feel worse about yourself - and also, how could you even allow your children to be near a man like this? you deserve more than wat he's giving you and he knows that but also knows that you are weak and let him get away with everything! you need to be strong, respect and love yourself and leave him - how can you love someone who treats you like this?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Hi,
I hate to be the one to break it to you mate. But there is no future with this boy. And he at 19 really is just a boy not ready to accept the responsibilites of taking on a ready made family and a partner with personal problems.
He simply doesnt have the maturity, his cheating on you is the first sign that he needs to escape.
What you need to do is find some support groups for your condition and for your children. You will eventually meet someone else but be realistic in your expectations, taking a teenage lover may be wonderful at the start but as time goes on he is only going to want to spread his wings and fly the coop, he cannot do that with you.
all the best anyway.
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