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writes:I need your help on this... So me and my boyfriend of 4 yrs have had our ups and downs... We live in a country where you are not really supposed to "have" boyfriend.. So it is a little bit hard to go "out" on dates... We usually see each other 2 times a month, every 2 weeks... The thing is now it has been a month that i haven't seen him... His family is busy moving to a new house(he live with his parents which is a normal thing here). So in the last 2 weeks he is busy, but has not made an effort to fix his schedule for 1-2 hrs to see me... Last week, after telling me can't see me, a friend from a different city came to town, and he stopped with whatever he was doing at home, and went out with him, for 3-4 hrs.. And the next day the same... We had a fight the day after it, and i told him about it... Now a week has passed and still he hasn't mentioned a thing about seeing me... What should i do... Do i wait for him to tell me, or do i tell him... what do i say, MAKE time for me, or could you fix ur schedule so we can see each other? My cousin, who is like a relationship helper, told me not to mention it at all, when he wants to see u he'll tell u... but they have untill the end of the month to move out of their house into the new one. So of course as time goes by they are going to be busier, so what should i do, plzzz help, it is tearing me on the inside that i haven't seen him in a month, and on top of that, is that he isn't trying to see me..... PLZ HELPPPP
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 August 2012):
 If he is not making the effort to see you then it sounds to me like this relationship might just be in trouble. Yes he may be busy but he still should make an effort for you if he is serious about you. Are you both hiding your relationship from your parents? If so maybe he does not want to cause them any stress or have them asking questions. The best thing for you to do is to tell him exactly how you are feeling. Don't order him to make time for you but explain to him how his lack of contact is hurting and upsetting you.
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