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writes:I tried to break up with my boyfriend yesterday, but he wouldn't let me, no matter what I said. We've been dating for almost a year, and I do love him, but I just can't handle this anymore. I'm sick of him getting upset and angry over stupid things, telling me what to do all the time, and making fun of most of the things I like. I can't be myself around him a lot of the time.When I tried to break up, he broke down. He blamed himself for everything, and said that I had been lying to him and I must have hated him. He kept telling me I promised I'd never give up on him, and that he would never get up on me. He doesn't understand that I just can't do this anymore because I'm always upset or unhappy. He begged me to stay with him because he said he will change and things will get better, but I don't think things could ever be the same as they used to again.I feel horrible and hate myself for doing this because I didn't know he'd react how he did (he basically had an emotional breakdown). I know I can't turn back now though. I just don't know what to say or do. I'm scared that I've changed him forever (for the worse), and I don't know what will happen if I actually break it off with him. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 "My boyfriend won't let me break up with him!!""I'm sick of him getting upset and angry over stupid things, telling me what to do all the time, and making fun of most of the things I like. I can't be myself around him a lot of the time." "I'm scared that I've changed him forever (for the worse), and I don't know what will happen if I actually break it off with him. Please help me."This is uncanny. I went through something very similar with a girlfriend . . . for 4 years! I was "guilted" back until in the end I just didn't care anymore. If you tell him what you need him to be and he can do that then great! If he can't do that then I don't see a whole lot that can be done. I think you're in a "danged if you do and danged if you don't" break up with him. I know I wish I had stayed broken up after the first year. Hope this helps!
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reader, JoeDhon +, writes (20 February 2011):
you doing it for you and your protection...
if the guy is getting violent is because he have these problem to take care.he'll get over you.
being dumped is just not pretty
but you're not his first nor his last.
so move on girl
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