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writes:I like a guy who is about 4 years older (I'm about 13 and a half and he is 18). We get on well and have a laugh (I've known him for 5 years) but i want it to go further. I see him every week at his football club (he plays in the same team as my brother). Would it be weird if we went out? Or would it be fine? Any Advice? :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): 4 years isn't a big age gap between adult but at your age, 4 years matters. Wait till your older.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (21 February 2011):
 hi
please do not pursue this. in the eyes of the law he is an adult and you are a child (even though you may not feel as if you are a child) if he took things further with you he would be classed as a paedophile so please do not encourage him to get involved with you. if you still like him when you are 16 and he is 20 then that is fine, although you may still find he is too old for you.
as we get older a four year age gap is NOTHING but the younger you are the more it matters, especially for someone as young as you are now. and a word of advice when you say that he will not 'use' you - don't be so sure of that. it takes more experience of life, people, love, sex and relationships to be able to say confidently that you will not be used and i am sorry but i think that you as a 13 year old girl does not have this sort of experience to safeguard yourself from being exploited. it is often difficult for us older people to protect ourselves from being used or fooled too.
a much safer bet for you would be to get a boyfriend who is much closer to your own age
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reader, LittleBitLost +, writes (20 February 2011):
LittleBitLost is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI see where you are coming from, and he doesn't know I like him I don't think. And yes he is single. ( XD )
I don't know if he likes me but there was a big gathering of people around my house (for my brother) and the guy I like was the only one to let me play on the play station with him.
And he ain't like what your thinking, he wont use me I promise.
But thank you, I will listen to your advice ;).
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reader, The Girl with the Diver's Hair +, writes (20 February 2011):
I totally agree with the Caring Guy, I mean yeah sure your 13 and I bet you feel on top of the world because this lad, well man, I know how you feel I was there once. But seriously your not ready for what he would want and expect of you if you do go out.
Firstly does he even know you like him and does he like you back. If he's not really sure don't pressure him into believing your ready. From past experience 18 year old are kind nice and up for a laugh. But not all of them.
If I was you just leave it for a bit. See how it goes but honestly right now don't go out with him, dont ask him out and do not pressure him into going out with you if you choose to ignore everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Because you are so young, yes i would say 4 years is too big a gap. I agree with caringguy, i would be wary of an 18 year old being interested in somebody your age.
Either wait till you're older or just leave it as a crush. Do you even know if he's single or interested in you romantically? I have my doubts that he feels the same considering your age. He probably sees you more like a little sister.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 February 2011):
I would say at your age, it's far too young. I would be concerned about an 18 year old wanting to go out with a 13 year old. You are, with the greatest of respect, under age and perhaps not ready for all the things an 18 year old would want. You sound like a mature girl, to be fair, but realistically you are too young for him, and people would be very concerned about your safety (rightfully so). I would admire him from afar, and not look to take it further.
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