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writes:Why do guys have a hard time expressing themselves? Every time I would ask my bf where this relationship is going or what he thinks of it, he says, "it is what it is". What does that mean? He shows a lot of affection towards me and treats me very well. I just don't understand why its so hard for him to talk about the relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, B-NaneR  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 I can tell you that all guys dont have a hard time talking about it, but some might not want to express emotions because it may show that they have a soft side and they may seem scared because it might make them seem weak. Me, I really feel that there is no problem opening up to the other half, I think it makes the relationship stronger. Maybe ask him why he wont open up, or just give him time. Dont force it on him, he may just need time to exspress him feelings, men usually do haha.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Hi, The great thing about your letter is that you say, he shows a lot of affection towards me, and treats me very well. I am reminded of the saying "actions speak louder than words". You are being shown, how much he cares for you, he may possibly be very introverted, or very shy about saying how he feels, or maybe he does not know how to put his feelings into words, a lot of men are like this. But I myself, would accept what he is able to give, and hope that as we progress in the relationship, that he will grow and lose some of his inability to talk about his feelings. But think about it, he shows he cares. Please see how positive your relationship is, and be thankful for that, in a world where some men are abusive to women and think nothing of hitting them and throwing things in a rage, you have a soul that is affectionate and kind to you. This is such a breath of fresh air. Count your blessings, and try to be patient as he matures, and quite possibly begins to tell you in words, what he feels. Cherish what you have, a lot of women can only wish. Take care. Stay in touch.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (14 June 2008):
 well men have a hard time expressing themselves because of how life treats us. we have to be macho, which means were not supposed to have emotion. all our lives we are taught this. as children we cry and our dad tells us "stop crying, men dont cry". and in school, if we show we have emotions it must mean were gay. most guys dont have anyone to talk about there relationship with so they just keep it to themselves. now i myself talk about how i feel but i have also been accused of being gay more times then i can count on two hands. i hate to say it but i blame society. i know this probably dousnt help much but at least now you know why.
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