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writes:I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23. He wears my bikinis all the time, and even says he wants to wear them in public.He also insists he's not gay, or a cross-dresser, and that wearing bikinis is right - and that men should do it.What should I do?? HELP!!suzy in florida Reply to this Question
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reader, Bikini Body +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Well let me tell you, if he has the body to wear a speedo type suit then more power to him. I model swimwear and I work very hard to have a body that looks good in a speedo type suit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): He may not be gay - he probably isn't, if there's no other evidence in that direction - but saying he's 'not a cross-dresser' is a bit inaccurate, if he wears your bikinis all the time and wants to do so in public.
There's nothing wrong with this at all, but if you find it a problem, of course you're entitled to tell him this and talk it through. The social taboo surrounding this issue is still pretty strong (part of the appeal, I suppose). So most trannies find that, while going out properly DRESSED UP as a woman is perfectly fine if it's to a gay bar or party or nightclub, lingerie/bikinis etc in the absence of any outerwear is something best confined to the privacy of the bedroom. Not that it wouldn't be lovely to swish down the beach in a nice bikini surrounded by lots of gorgeous Latin men, but modesty must dictate otherwise.
Also, be honest, does he look good? A very, very small minority of men are capable of looking great in female undies. Most of them simply look ridiculous. Without meaning to be arrogant, I think you need a very skinny frame, features that are quite feminine in the first place (lips and cheekbones in particular), probably best not to be too tall, and a generally 'girlish' disposition. I'm often told that the Good Lord has blessed me with these qualities, and I intend to make the most of them.
It's up to you and him to work out. Talk to him.
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reader, lindabkk +, writes (5 August 2009):
i wear female bikini bottom on the beach all the time. i love brazillian style very much. i think it is normal. i just want to bring out my feminine side. what is wrong to want to feel sexy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): OK but if he does wear the top also how about the tan lines?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): It's no big deal. If he just wears the bottoms it would be like wearing a Speedo or any men's bikini and there's a lot of men's bikinis where I live in Florida. In fact some skinny guys would probably look better in a girl's bikini because it would fit better than a guy's which are usually made for bigger guys.
If he wants to wear the top also, then I would say OK, but he probably identifies with something in his life that makes him want to wear a 2 pc bikini like a girl. If he's in shape and wants to, who cares. In fact it might start a new fashion trend. I've seen big breasted guys that should wear a bra top. I would never judge someone for what they wear. What's the big deal. It's only cloth. It's what's inside that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): Maybe deep down inside he feels like a woman and not a man. You should ask him.
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reader, penta +, writes (27 May 2007):
 It sounds like he has a fetish. This may not be a problem -- he's clearly still into you. At least make him buy his own bikinis! But if it bugs you, bail. He's not going to change, and you shouldn't have to either.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 He may be bi-curious, bi, or gay. He may be curious about experimenting. It's not normal. I think that you should look for someone who can be a man for you.
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Ive never actually seen a guy in a bikini before! Try and talk about this find out why he feels the need to wear a bikini. He's saying he is not a cross dresser but it sounds like he might be even if he wont actually label himself as one.
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