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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and we have such a good relationship; we're always together and doing family things together...we havent yet moved in but he is always at my place like we do...in the past few months or so hes been saying that he wants to move to dallas and last night we talked about it and he said that he wants me to come with him and that he would respect my decision to not (i have a son and am not sure that i want to take him from where all his family is)but he doesnt want to be in a long distance relationship so basically if he does decide to go we will break up. i dont want that and neither does he...i am so confused on what to do; a part of me wants to go with him but a part of me is scared to make such a move...im torn...what should i do???????????????/
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (13 March 2013):
 What exactly is prompting him to move to Dallas? Is it a job transfer? Or is it that he just wants to move because he just wants to live in Dallas? And what about you? Do you work and can you afford to live without a job? Do you have any good job prospects in Dallas? Are you going to rely on your savings while in Dallas or is he supporting your financially while there? And since you did not live together previously, does he even want you two to live together when in Dallas?Bottom line in this: you two are only boyfriend and girlfriend. You have a child and family in this location. Kids do need a good family structure, not mommy's boyfriend who may or may not be in his life in the future. Do you really think it's a wise move for you and your son to follow this man? Do you even LIKE and want to be in Dallas?As far as I can see, this is all on his terms. 1. He is the only one here that wants to move Dallas.2. He doesn't want a long distance relationship. He wants you to move with him, or else by default he will be breaking up with you. Basically you're facing an ultimatum here. And a very high-risk one if you ask me. Tell me, if he loved you so much why would he not want to be in a long distance relationship? Do you really want to uproot your life and the life of your son for a man, who freely admitted does not want to continue a relationship because long-distance is too inconvenient for him?
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