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writes:i really love my boyfriend. and we've been together for a long time-around a year. his best friend is really horrible. well ex best friend. but suddenly my boyfriend has decided he wants to make peace with him and i don't know whether i can support him. he has said horrible things about me behind my back, he tried to break us up, he tried to break another couple up too. thing is he denies it ever happened. he also cheated on my best friend with her best friend. i don't know what to do. should i support him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Supporting your boyfriend doesn't mean YOU hav to make friends with this guy. If you support your boyfriend, and your boyfriend wants to patch things up with this friend, you supporting him means: you say it is ok, you don't try to tell him he can't, you allow him to meet and be friends with this guy, you maybe even encourage it if it is what your boyfriend wants, and you talk him through any difficulties that arise. Supporting him does not mean that you have to even like this guy. Or be friends with him. You support your boyfriend, not this other guy. Support what your boyfriend wants, but don't feel forced to do the same as your boyfriend. I hope you see the difference. Think of it like this, hypothetically: you can be again abortion, but your friend is having one. You can still support her through the hard times, even though you are against abortions in genereal.
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