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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and he wants to keep our relationship from people at school. I want to be able to hold his hand in the hallway, and he wants just to say "hi" and see each other on the weekends or after school. I think this is a bit stupid and i really like him so i want to not keep it a secret, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 June 2008):
 This is going to sound odd, coming from a grown woman, but I went through the exact same thing with my boyfriend (now my husband) when we first started dating in our early 30s. Sounds nuts, I know, but I went along with it because I trusted him and knew that he was very conservative and cautious about things in general.
We were part of a large group of friends, and changing the dynamic by starting up as a couple was a concern of his. I wasn't happy, mind you, but after about 2 or 3 months, he was comfortable enough to show that we were indeed a couple. I think he was worried that if things didn't work out between us that people would be forced to choose sides in the even of a break up.
So I'd give him a little more time. Decide how long you can wait, and then tell him what you're prepared to do. Then stick to it. He might just need to adjust to the whole idea of being one half of a 'couple'. Then again, he might be too immature to actually be a good boyfriend right now. Time will tell.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): Tell him that you want the world to know and if he isnt going to agree to that then he can get lost. Ask him why he wants it kept a secret? Has he already got a gf??? talk to him and let him know that is how you want it or else.
Life is too short, so dont let a bloke tell you how things are going to be, be strong and if he doesnt like it, then kick him to the kerb and meet someone else.
take care
xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I guess keep it secret or get another boyfriend.
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