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writes:my boyfriend wants to go down on me but I have my period it's nearly finished?What shall I do!!! we don't get much time together so when he is here, I want it to be special, but I have had my period for about 4 days or so now and; their light now, and I've got tonight, Sunday then Monday until he is here, I am meeting him Monday night, but will they be gone by then? I don't want anything to come out, I am so scared? can I make them go quicker or any trick I can do to get rid of em? I sound silly I just really want to be with him, but don't want my first time being gone down on being a disaster, and he wants to touch me, finger me, but I am mortified if anything comes out??? please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): As a man who enjoys sex with my gorgeous wife whatever time of the month it may be, I see nothing wrong with oral or vaginal sex during a woman's period. If your guy is anything like me he won't be bothered half as much as you might think by 'leakage'. Granted it doesn't taste particularly pleasant, but we don't blame you for that and the extra intimacy of oral at 'that' time of the month more than makes up for any downside. Personally, when I first went down on my partner when she had her period I felt I was proving something to her about how much I love her and find her beautiful at ALL times.
Ask him how he feels, and if he says he doesn't mind he means it. As long as you're ok with it, have fun :-)
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reader, Tyedyedturtle  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 Period sex is not something I would suggest. Let alone getting head while on your period. Your period could go away by then, but your stressing out will make it worse and possibly longer. If you still have your period, you will just have to tell him it has to wait. There are no tricks to stop it. It must run it's natural course, but stress does affect it. If he loves you and/or cares about you, he won't mind. Example: My parents went out of town just the other week and I knew my period should be coming, but had yet to get it. I told my boyfriend that he should come over so we could enjoy some alone time. We had scheduling problems because he had work and family in town. When he finally did come over, he came ready and roaring to go. He had bought condoms and everything, but a few days had passed by this time and sure enough my period came. I just simply told him and told him it would have to wait. Was he a little disappointed? Of course! It was a "why couldn't I have got here just a day or two earlier?!" situation. But he understood and didn't care at the end of the day. We did other things while we hung out. Just tell him what's up and that you obviously will not feel comfortable.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (13 August 2011):
 He will either need to wait or learn the hard way that you are not ready/squeeky clean right now.
If this is your first time with oral...please wait.
Do it when you can not have any anxiety and actually enjoy the sensations.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 Tell him it'll have to wait for another time! There is little to no chance that you will feel comfortable with him down there when you are still on your period. Yes, things might come out, and you also smell differently, and the taste would be terrible if he was to get some period on his tongue... So just don't go there.
Make your first time receiving oral special, now's not the time for it I am afraid.
If you absolutely MUST have oral sex now, then put in a tampon. The feeling will be different though, he wont be able to finger you at the same time, and there'll be the tread from the tampon in the way... but that'd be your best option if you absolutely must do it now.
If I was you, I'd wait until the time was right though, which isn't now.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (13 August 2011):
 If you don't want anything to come out, then it's best if he doesn't go down there at all. Unless he's ok with pleasing you while on your period? But you're not, so it's best if you just save the intimacy for a few days later, or at least the eating out.
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