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writes: Hi,I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we went out and bought an engagement ring recently which we are both thrilled about. My problem is, I am disgusted at my past- who I have slept with, mistakes I have made, and subsequently feel that I don't deserve him, nor happiness. Does everyone else feel like this when things take a serious step forward?! I am not doubting how much I love him, but more myself- do I deserve him? I feel as if something is going to go wrong. I should be ecstatic at the moment, but I'm wallowing in the past. I have never cheated on him in our time together though. Is this feeling normal?! Reply to this Question
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reader, mystify +, writes (3 January 2006):
 when i met my husband i really felt the same, i wished even that id waited for him so i could say he was truley the only one but if i hadnt done the things id done i wouldnt be the person i am today.
all the goood things and bad things in you past make up the good person you are now and im sure your fiance wouldnt have you any other way
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reader, ferraro-lisa +, writes (1 January 2006):
first of all congrats on the engagement!!! what you need to do is take one last look at the past and throw it away. you have future ahead of you with this guy who loves you. you should feel ecstatic and dont let that past of yours stop you. You do deserve him, you have not done anything to not deserve him!!! just think of the future its the best option.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (1 January 2006):
 You deserve a good life and you need to keep telling yourself that. As I read your letter, I saw a really good person, her heart is in the right place. I think we all have memories of past experiences we wish we could forget. But that is why we call it the past, it is behind us, we learn from it, and it makes us who we are today. So now you are planning your future and it is time to look ahead.
Enjoy your new life together. I wish you the best!
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