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writes:Any ideas on how I handle this one. I am having a 'girlie' night at my house on Friday with nine old friends and my boyfriend who loves cooking has offered to cook us all a curry, preparing it Thursday and then coming after work on the Friday to do the cooking and serving. I love him for doing this as he is taking a lot of pressure off me and I know he revels in his cooking ability, especially curry, but there will be no other guys there and a) I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him that it wont be the same with only one guy there, and b) I havent told the girlfriends that he will be there.I have hinted that he might feel uncomfortable with so many women and no other guys (and that he had to serve up naked!! joke!) hoping that he might offer to go out, but he didnt make any comments.Any ideas on what I should do. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I can fondly remember a ladies night out, a few years back, where us gals soaked in a hot tub...with the hostess's husband serving us champagne, crackers and cheese. The lovely thing was, he was wearing nothing but his itty-bitty neon green 'speedo' swimsuit! What a brave soul he was. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for that. I do want to show him off and I think it will be quite novel him serving up dinner. As its just after halloween maybe I should get him to done a black suit to make it a bit of fun and as you say gently suggest he retreat to another room with Sky or some DVD's.Will let you know how it goes.Thanks
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 How sweet of your boyfriend,
I like having girls night's at my house too. Sometimes if my boyfriend is around, he's allowed to hang out for a little bit (since he does live in the house too, after all. Your girlfriends will understand), but then I kick him into the bedroom, set him up with a movie and some grub and he's good.
Let your boyfriend cook and serve and then have him go into the den (or basement or bedroom), or tell him that he's got the night off and that he can go play with his guy friends at a sports bar or something.
I think it will take a good amount of pressure off of you to have him doing all the cooking and serving. Just enjoy your girlfriends and let them be jealous of your amazing cook of a boyfriend!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I think it's wonderful that he has agreed to support and help you with this 'girl's night out' function. What a sweetheart! What a refreshing change getting a cute letter like yours...so many postings come on this site from couples where one of them is constantly 'running' away in the other direction (drunken parties with the girls/boys, cheating, ignoring their families, etc) Here you are, with a great guy who wants to be a part of this. Let him do it but with one stipulation--that when he's done serving the meal and drinks, he go to another part of the home (bedroom, family room, den) and give you and the girls some space to have some drinks and some 'randy' talk. lol. You can still have your fun and you get to 'show off' to the girls what a wonderful man you have. Lucky you! Have fun, hun!
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