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writes:My boyfriend told me today, he wants to be single!We have been on and off for about 9 months now..We just got back together about three days ago..he told me that he wants to be alone incase somebody else comes along.. that hes really suppose to be with, but then he will let them pass by and be with me!How is this suppose to make me feel? he told me he still loves me, but he is very stressed out right now.Is this some sort of joke? Like really, how do you love somebody and say that?I have NO idea how to move on from here.......
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reader, Dee206-7  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Read Steve Harvey's new book "Act like a lady and think like a man." Trust me when I say a man knows within 90 days weather your the one for him or not. And here's the secret, if a man will even take a chance on losing you or run the risk of you possibly meeting some one else, he will never be the one for you. Most men in my opinion are not going to take that chance even for a moment if they are truly interested, believe it or not they will try to secure a relationship with you as soon as possible if you let them and if they are really interested, men like love and relationships just as much as we do, but the difference is they are not as easily won over by emotions like we are, so they usually know with a pretty clear mind set who and what they want with in the first 90 days. If he comes back to you later, run!!!! You are obviously not his first choice and he feels he couldn't find nothing better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): he obviously doesn't want to be with you, what i would do in your situation is to drop him and find someone else. Never let yourself be treated like a tool. If those words were what he used (or pretty close) he is just using you hun, if you still have feelings for him do what you can, but this relationship has been on/off, and if that was his doing with the prior split(s)....just more evidence to prove that hes treating you unfairly. i don't know your exact circumstances, but tell him that those are "break-up words" and you feel like crap from him saying that. i dunno what hes stressing about, but given your age bracket, if it IS love, and not just a strong liking-to those words should not be said.
best of luck
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 hun you're 13-15 you guys shouldn't be settling for eachother now i mean you got so much ahead of you.
he's not the one for you because he wouldn't say something like that to you if he truely loved you.
hun you got your whole life ahead of you just leave him be if he wants to wait for the one then you do the same :)
he's probably alot better than him anyways!
good luck :)
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