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writes:Hi, me and my boyfriend are dating for about 7-8 weeks now;I know him for 6 months now.We have been on dates kissed and he even touched and pressed my breast but we have never done anything more than that .now he is asking me to give him my semi-nude pictures and I have said no to him he became angry and said that don’t bore me and I asked u didn’t gave me that is it .I tried to explain him that I am not comfortable so he said if you are not comfortable then give it to someone else then I told him that I meant I’m not comfortable to give it on internet and in anger I said him I’m not a slut and he didn’t replied nicely to me.I became very hurt .. Before also he has asked and I gave him my pic in bras without my face .He has asked me to do fingering but no sex I said no it is too early and I told him that we can do it after 2 years .I'm a student and I have to go to Philippines for Mbbs in near future... I don’t know what should I do Break up is not option I love him.... can anyone help.... Please
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2015): Hi,
thnx everyone for showing me right path . I hav decided to break it of with him .
He is nt texting me at all from last 2 dys so i think tht he is not worth my tym n love ....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (19 June 2015):
 "...he said if you are not comfortable then give it to someone else..."
You are dealing with a child, here. Tell him - very forthrightly - that passing provocative pictures on the Internet is stupid... and that YOU are smart enough to know that, and not do it (exchange the pictures).....
If he persists... then, he'll be telling you that he really doesn't give a damn about you... or social propriety... and you'll KNOW that you should dump his sorry, immature, a$$...
Good luck....
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reader, Garbo +, writes (19 June 2015):
 You should never send nude pic because in this digital age that evidence will live forever. Moreover, he is not your husband nor do you have any strong bonds with this guy, therefore absolutely NO nude pics. I think you handled yourself well, both with pics and sex, so simply do that which stated another way means never do anything sexually that you are uncomfortable with.By asking for advice here as to what you should do you are also saying that you are unsure of your actions and that somehow it could be your fault that your guy is not getting it his way... so rest assured, you've done right and frankly it should not be your concern whether your guy is left dry and not getting any. Sex is intimate and personal, and if it isn't like that for you then who cares what he thinks about that. So focus on you Phillipines trip and good luck there.
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 June 2015):
 No No No and a thousand times NO. Never share any photos that could come back as revenge porn to humiliate and shame you.
Thank goodness you have said no to any further pictures beyond one with your face obscured and just a bra. Even then that was one picture too many.
And Thank goodness you said no to fingering.
This young man you have known for 6 months and you have been dating for 7 to 8 weeks
That is called a Crush and after such a short period of time the two of you should be just sharing more about who you each are.
Instead he wants nude pictures, he has touched your breasts and has asked for fingering.
Sounds like he pushes the parameters every moment he gets.
This is not a respectful way to behave.
He may be saying the right things to make you think he loves you but look at his actions.
His unseemly anxious pushing of you to do more and more sexually is only because this is his opportunity before you go away to study.
But the way he becomes so nasty and angry so quickly sounds more like the tantrum of a five year old. That he started speaking to you so disrespectfully so quickly is a very bad sign.
So he has a short fuse. So he can become angry quickly. This impetuous immaturity could lead to what is called REVENGE PORN and you do not want to be associated with that.
Revenge porn is where a person uploads nude and pornographic images of a former friend with a view to humiliating and shaming the person immediately or some years later.
Revenge porn is becoming a problem around the world. It can ruin lives.
http://www.telegraphindia.com/1140803/jsp/7days/18682133.jsp
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-31429026
http://www.cagoldberglaw.com/states-with-revenge-porn-laws/
What would your family and friends feel if your national newspaper one day ran a story on revenge porn and referred to photos found on a revenge porn site? Often the person who uploads the picture even includes the name of the girl.
You do NOT need that.
This young man is moving far too fast. He is pushing you in unseemly ways.
he really is not worthy of you.
not only CAN you break up with him, you SHOULD break up with him. in fact you should not even see him again.
Do what you can to protect your reputation when you break up with him.
No matter what lies he spreads about you maintain your dignity.
You should NOT meet him again and you should NOT allow yourself to be alone with him.
Break up via the phone. not even a text. Then block him. This young man is trouble indeed and that trouble you do not need - is he jealous that you are going off to study?
there are far more respectful young men in the community who behave with more maturity and do not demand pornographic pictures and do not speak abusively to the girl they are dating.
I wish you well in your studies.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 June 2015):
 NEVER do anything you are NOT comfortable with. And certainly NEVER with a guy who gets angry and treats you with disrespect.
My guess is he is hoping to do more than he is getting now, but NOT because he LOVES you. Because he thinks you will do ANYTHING to please him. THAT is not love, that is him USING you.
Like Codewarrior said you NEED to scrub any pictures YOU DO NOT want your mom and dad to see and NEVER take any pictures THEY can not see.
I have to say, I would not want to date a guy who were being so disrespectful towards me. YOU are still so young and need to learn that it is NOT OK for a guy to treat you like you are a piece of meat for HIS entertainment.
YOU do NOT owe him any pictures.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (19 June 2015):
 You are right to say no to sending him pictures. Who the hell does he think he is getting angry about it? It shows he has little respect for you.
If you take naked pictures of yourself, you never know where they might end up. Too many people split up and then don't delete the pictures. Don't go there.
Breaking up IS an option because: a) you have made no commitment to him, and b) he is a disrespectful idiot who doesn't deserve you.
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