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writes:I been with my boyfriend for over a year. He uses steriods and thought he was sterile. A few weeks ago we broke up and i was feeling sick and was late with my period. I tock a pregnacy test that came back positive. I called and told him, he thought i was lying because i wanted him back. He is a bit full of him self. He came to the doctors with me and the doctor confirmed the pregnacy. Now my boyfriend wants me to get an abortion, because he dosnt want any children. For one when we met he knew i did not belive in abortion, so i was concerned about using protection, wer i am very fertile. He asured me he was sterile from his steriod use. Im am not a child, Im 41, and have been married two times and have 6 children. My boyfriend is 47, and reliquished his rights to his first child who his sister adopted, because he cant handle responibility.I know that i will not get an abortion, this was a chance I tock using no protection. And i am woman enough to face my responsibilities. This man how eva dosnt want any responsibility, so i am alone.. dealing with his threatsI told him to get out of my life and I will raise the child alone. I been a single mom for 19 years, raised all my 6 kids by myself, while my first husband was in jail. Finacialy times have been hard working several jobs to make ends meet. I guess my question is how to deal with the father of my unborn child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): If I were you I would give the child up for adoption. I'm thinking of the child's welfare. I wouldn't want to see the child suffer because of a father who doesn't care about it's existance.
Then I would go get your tubes severed, not tied, but completely burned away. You obviously have a track record for choosing terrible men for fathering babies. Please stop this trend for the children's sake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): "When a guy says he doesn't need to use a condom because he's infertile HE NEVER IS."
So very true.
I'm a guy and I've heard it all from other guys. Every guy who has ever put anything bad into his body seems to think it'll also work as a nice convenient form of birth control. Drinking, drugs, steroids, even just too much fast food.
It's just ludicrous. I once heard a guy say he wouldn't get his GF pregnant because he drinks too much Coke all the time.
They're not all just decieving their GFs either. A lot of them actually believe what they're saying.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 August 2008):
Well he's on steroids so he's going to be violent and have terrible mood swings. I am sure you've already seen this.
To be honest if you are scared of him coming in to ruin things or to try and get you to have abortions then get a restraining order.
PS. When a guy says he doesn't have to use a condom because he's infertile HE NEVER IS
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): I know you don't want to take advice from a 17 year old, but hear me out.. Please..Tell him to stop being a moron and step up to what he did, and face the consequences. If he's not man enough to do said act, drop him like a bad habit. I'm about to turn 18 August 3rd. (11:45 PM Here, so it's still the 1st.) I work at a local SubWay Sandwich Shop. I don't even work 10 hours a week at the moment. Still in training. And I make around $7.00 an hour. Maybe!I just got out of a relationship that lasted from Novemeber 5th, 2007 to June 5th, 2008. We are separated. Agreed to see other people, and we still live together with my father, brother, and his girlfriend.Yes I still want her back, but she's found someone else, or so I'm lead to believe. I'm just going to have to live with what i've messed up. She's made a few mistakes in the past, we'll leave it at that, and is now lead to believe she can't conceive by doctors and other medical personnel. Around June 1st. I stopped using protection because I felt safe enough to not have to worry about it. Here lately she's been having scares about her being pregnant. She's been pregnant in the past, and has yet to get past a certain point in her term. Never my child however. She says a sure fire sign of her being pregnant is the fact that her hands and feet start to swell up. Well, here lately, they have been, come to find out it's due to poor circulation due to her sitting on them for hours on end playing World of Warcraft.But if she came to me and told me she was pregnant, and it was going to live, I would definately be man enough to accept the fact that I got myself into this situation, and step up and be there for my child. Any man who wouldn't, is a damned coward. Basically what i'm trying to tell you is to confront him about it.. Tell him that if he doesn't step up and be a man about it, you'll drop him like a bad habit. And if that doesn't work. Who need's him? 'Eh? I don't know the guy, nor will I ever. But if he's not man enough to step up, why would you want to keep him around?And if all else fails, you could always attempt to get child support out of him. Unless of course you're the type of woman who believes in the fact that women are stronger than men and don't want to take his money to show the world what you're made of. Then by all means. Show the world! Got nothing against that. Infact. I wish I could show the world what i'm made of, unfortunately, I don't know how, but that's a different rant. Sorry for it being so long and drawn out and pointless. I tend to do that a lot. -Nobody important, Kansas-
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