A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes: Porn Wars :My boyfriend is telling me i am sabbotoging our sex life and our relationship. I feel it is he that is. We just made up over a 4 day battle cuz last week he was busy messin w/his tools, so i got in the bath. When i got out of the tub i was struck with him captivated in front of the comp. watching a porn dvd. I felt like he was cheeting on me and this battle lasted 4 agonizing days! Fineally we begin to makeup and last night when we went to bed together,(the 1st time in 4 days), he asks me to put 2 porn movies in he hasnt seen yet. We hadnt even hit the sheets yet 2gether! He didnt kiss or touch me and i was hurt and insulted by this. after he turned off the dvds he still did not kiss or touch me all night. Fineally i told hime that the very thing we had this fight over is the first thing u bring in 2 r bed, before even "us"! He told me i am distroying r sex life and r relationship. we now r back at war. How can I deal with this and what should i do?
View related questions:
porn, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): wow! You deserve much better than this girl! He must be a sick person to bring porn in when he clearly sees you aren't interested!!! I think you should seriously re-consider this relationship with him. He does not seem to have any respect for your feelings.
A
female
reader, Mugzie69 +, writes (18 August 2009):
 Your sex life? If you're not doing porn with him, then those DVDs are about HIS sex life, not your (plural) sex life together. Is he trying to interest you in it? If so, you have the option of playing along or not. But if he prefers porn to you, that's his decision. Time to move along.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): You have the option of getting turned on by the porn with him in the bedroom and accepting his addiction to porn or my personal favorite-you can kick him to the curb. He luckily is just a boyfriend, not a husband.
He doesn't sound like good husband material to me, you can do better. Not all men are into porn and have more respect for the woman in their lives than to watch porn while she lies naked in the tub in the next room or naked in the bed....he has to know this is disrespectful to YOU.
I am no prude, but the disrespect and callousness of his feelings would be an absolute deal breaker for me unless he could clean up his act and pronto.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): hey he doesnt care get rid of him.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): He's trying to have some fun and you are boring. You know, adding a little spice and adventure. And you are putting him down. What's really wrong with it? It's not like he's two timing. And he's doing things under the same roof. You have to do things for each other to make relationships work. Put yourself out there a little bit. He's not doing it infront of other people, or kids, and it's nothing harmful.
...............................
|
