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reader, soinlovededra +, writes (17 October 2010):
Thank you, i will try that and i pray to God that it works. (: thanx everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Maybe you could just offer to listen to him, and agree to say nothing. Don't offer any opinions or anything, just let him say it. You could tell him that maybe you won't understand, but you care and would still like to know. Or would he be willing to write it down, and then you can read it? It is true, we won't always understand what someone is trying to tell us. We won't always get it right. But try telling him that you would like to understand, if he would help you. Just let him know you are willing to try anyway. If he still won't talk to you, I don't think there is much else you can do. You can only try to understand if he will give you a chance to listen. You are willing to try, so he needs to meet you halfway and communicate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): We've been together 9 months but we have known each for 6 going on 7 years. when we first got together we could talk about anything i miss that. he has just been so angry lately so we've been arguing. i just want to know whats been bothering him because when he's hurting it also affects me. i understand him i just dont know why he thinks i dont. but thanks for the advice the first answer made complete since to me.
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reader, owenlucky13  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 hi im pretty much the same my other half is always asking me whats wrong and i do open up to her adventualy. so my advice for you is to let him know that you are there for him and when he is ready to open up you will be there to listen. us blokes find it hard to let our feelings out as we see it as a sign of weakness. so just stand by him and he will open up in time.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Well, it probably depends on your reactions towards his confessions. Maybe he once told you something and you criticized him harsh. Or maybe you didn't pay enough attention to what he had to say, I don't know. You should give us more details, it's pretty general what you posted. It also depends on how long you've been together, because trust cannot be gained over night, so you need to be patient.
Good luck!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (17 October 2010):
Hi there. How long have you been going out together?
What has been happening for him to think this way?
Have you had any arguments lately?
How often do you both see each other (apart from school)?
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