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*oolblu89
writes:How can I stop acting like a wussy around my boyfriend? I met up with him last weekend and it was 3 weeks, since we've been intimate with each other. However besides the lovin', I spent most of the time nagging him. About him not remembering the things I had talked about before, about my exams that I am having right now, about him giving me the silent treatment all of a sudden (he doesn't text me as often as he used to and he ignores my posts/messages on facebook. before this he would text me at least once a day) Oh and all of a sudden he stops saying "I love you", like I would say it to him, and he'd go "yea me too"He says nothing is wrong with us, when I asked him about it, he says I should stop acting like a girl. Because I am being so sensitive and insecure like one. Basically that last sentence still resonates in my head up till today. I really don't know how to act around him anymore. I mean I realised I was wrong to nag at him (I going through an examphase and sorta stressed out about the whole thing) and the next day I called him up and told him I was sorry for all the drama, and he says that I always end up apologizing to him nowadays. He says he doesn't like it, and the rest of the conversation was just awkward, cuz he was tired and so we just ended it shortly after. I think I've shown him too much of my weakness and I really like this dude, and don't wanna lose him. What can I do to make him think I'm special again? I've heard ignoring him is the only way, to make him want me more, but somehow I just keep having this fear of losing him. He's gone on vacation for a couple of weeks, and I already miss him. I know I can be clingy, I just want to know how I can stop being so obsessive over him. That and the wussy bit. Advice pleasE?
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (17 August 2010):
I agree with valeriemarie. Just don't nag him as much. Also don't read to much into his little changes in the way he says things. He might be making them without thinking about he because he's just a little annoyed.
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reader, valeriemarie +, writes (17 August 2010):
sometimes when your with someone so much it's easy to pick apart all the little things they do and say, I think that's happening with both of you. my advise would be to try not to nag him so much about the little things and maybe he will lighten up a little. sometimes I get the same way with my boyfriend and then I realize it and try to lay off him a little and it actually makes me appreciate him more and I then of course he appreciates me more too because theres just less drama all together. Maybe its good that hes out of town and you are spending some time apart..I say when he gets back you should have something special planned and just spend an evening together without any nagging. Just all fun and smiles :)
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