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writes: How would you deal with your boyfriend being friends or talking with someone you do not feel comfortable with? This girl who has recently became friends with some of my boyfriends friends has now targeted my boyfriend and is becoming a little too friendly with him and I'm not so comfortable and at ease about it.Let me get a little more specific about the situation. I have known about this girl way before she became friends with me and my boyfriends friends. She unfortunately is that type of girl who is known to be a home wrecker. She is an extremely flirty type of person and has dated and broke the hearts/cheated on many of my friends, and I have not really liked her since that happened. This girl has also made it clear that she doesn't like me. I have tried to speak with her on a couple of occasions (just me and her were alone) and she just totally ignores me and has started being really mean to me and talking bad about me.Anyways, what I am getting at is she has now targeted my boyfriend. She has added him on facebook and is always writing on his wall with hearts and being very flirty, and also there's a skype situation where she is in a group call with my boyfriend and all of his friends and if I ever decide to join the call, she will be like "ew" and leave the conversation...which I don't understand why she has to be so immature about everything. My boyfriend is quite nice with her, he's the type of guy who doesn't realize when someone is flirting with him, but he doesn't do anything to stop her behavior, he just lets everything go like it didn't happen. This girl is up to no good, and I'm the only one who knows it, and my friends don't really see it because well they're males and they don't really understand what she is doing.I'm not going to blame my boyfriend or anything about this...nor have I really said anything about this to him because I don't really know what to say. I trust my boyfriend but I don't trust this girl one bit. I have a feeling she could be doing this just to upset me and I don't know how to handle such a situation. I'm really stressed out because me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and I wouldn't want anything stupid to happen over some girl. Any advice is appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2013): Why did he accept her friend request? Have you told him that she makes you uncomfortable?
When my boyfriend has friend requests from chicks, unless him and I know that girl personally he doesn't add them. They all cause drama.
I know that it's frustrating, but either you trust him or you don't.
Talk to him, tell him she makes you uncomfortable, if he really cares about you and it bothers you that much, he should delete her.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (18 March 2013):
Trying to control him won't solve anything. You either trust HIM or you don't. If you don't, why are you with him?
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reader, Sweetheartxo  +, writes (18 March 2013):
This is about trust, if you trust him dont worry. I'd have a sit down with him and make him fully aware of how uncomfortable this girl makes you feel, if hes understanding and edges off from her he respects and loves you enough to not make a big deal out of it, if he gets defensive and makes a big deal out of it, well, that says it all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 March 2013):
 if you truly trust your boyfriend you have NOTHING to worry about.
A man can only be "stolen" if he wants to be. Even a clueless man will eventually figure out that the girl is after him and block her. IF he does NOT block her then he's not as committed to his relationship as others may think.
She friended him on facebook... and he accepted... did you ask him why? have you asked him if he has noticed her being flirtatious... he may not see her as flirtatious. He may not even get that she's being that way and therefore it would not matter if she danced naked in front of him, if he's not in the mindset to be taken, he's going nowhere honey.
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