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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 2 month still has a girl calling and messaging him all the time!! Ive always found it very hard to trust men as ive been badly hurt before. Then along comes this amazing guy who treats me like a princess and i actually trusted him then all of sudden i feel that our trust is ruined! He was out one day and left his phone at mine the phone rang so i looked to see who it was and it was this girl but didnt think anything of it. Then the same thing happened another time with a message and it was her saying "hey babe what you up to xx" I asked him and he told me it just a girl thats been on this case for a while and means nothing! Which i still thought ok it early days in our relationship ill let it pass! He told me he stopped all contact with her and deleted her. Yesterday surprise surprise he has more missed calls from her and her number was still in his phone so i said let me talk to her and he quickly deleted her number! He told me she has a boyfriend so why is she calling and messaging him all the time? We had a huge argument and he started crying and saying baby i love you bla bla bla... i cant believe this has happened etc! Why would you cry if you have done no wrong? Im actually not too bothered about this girl but more his reaction to the whole thing that has made me think he is guilty of something! He said he will make sure it never happens again but i dont know if i believe him! As i say i find it so hard to trust men and once my trust is broken i cant get it back.. i have told him this and we had a long chat about things last night. And i told him if it happens again then im done with him! Am i over reacting? Or is my reaction justified?
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reader, Pumpkin2  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 he is upset because he does not want to lose you.
The other girl has a boyfriend but is probably having problems and asking for advice. And he's a nice guy so he's giving her a bit of support.
But really her problems may be so Big with her new boy friend that she wants your boy friend back for herself.
But I bet he has not realised that. He just thinks he is giving her temporary help.
Suggest he tell the other girl to write into Dear Cupid with her problems. Because he wants to concentrate on you.
Then he really has to be strong and delete her from his phone.
But I really hope he is not too upset by your reaction that he turns to his ex.
Hope it works out for you.
Because his very upset reaction shows that he cares and he love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWeve been in a relationship for the last 2 months... :)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 You've only been dating for 2 months or have you just decided to be exclusive in the last 2 months?
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