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writes: My boyfriend has a girlfriend who sell herself on the internet via webcam. It fine and I have met her but I still feel funny about them chatting on messenger. I also found out that he sent her naked pictures of himself that her previously too for me.. I have had a big discussion with him and he assure me that nothing is going on and that she is now in love with her new boyfriend. But I am really unhappy that he sent her those picture but I don't have to balls to tell him that I know and upset the boat. I am really worried about our future. Do you think it was just one of the things or should I say something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2006): Hi I am the girl that sent this question. OK so I told him I knew that he had sent the pictures to her that he originally took for me. He is was obviously very disappointed in himself and very sorry. He has never done anything like this before and I generally feel he is pretty loyal. I don't believe he would get physical with anyone behind my back. He said he sent them as a joke and they were talking about him doing webcam stuff for extra money in a hypothetical way, hhhmmmm... However, your right in your answers, its not acceptable to send photos to her.. The worst part for me was that he sent them to her a few days before we bumped into her when we were out one evening. I don't want her thinking she can have the upper hand on our relationship... He has deleted her from messenger. I didn't ask him to do that he just wanted too.
The story goes that I was in america for a year and we stayed together having the webcam make it possible, plus he came to visit me 4 times and I went home twice, so not bad going. Then when I got back home things were fine,I got back at Christmas and he sent her the photos on Jan 10th so I was home by then... gutted!!! I don't live with him at the moment.
Still not sure what to do... I will keep you posted!! Thank you for the advice!
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (4 April 2006):
 HAve to agree with Irish...it is one thing for him to be friends with this girl, but his exchanging photographs with her is obviously crossing the line and making you uncomfortable and miserable. You should not have to put up with something like this in a relationship when it is obviously making you unhappy. Bite the bullet and confront him, let him know that you find this behaviour unacceptable and hurtful to you. If you let this continue it WILL turn into something worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2006): Not upset the boat!? Your boyfriend is in a relationship with you! You have a right to ask him to stop this ridiculous, blatant sexual behaviour with her. It's one thing to be 'friends' with this webcam girl, but it's quite another thing to send her, boldly, naked photos of oneself. He's behaving sexually with her and has other not so innocent thoughts about her. One doesn't send glaringly intimate pics of himself to females of the opposite sex when he's in a relationship with another girl. I find this disrespectful to you. There is no excuse for this behaviour, dear. He may not have cheated with her, but he's thinking of it. Plain and simple. He's being a cad and he's advertising himself to her. It matters nothing to him, that she's in a love relationship herself. He just tells you that. Read between the lines and discern behaviours here..don't allow yourself to believe everything he tells you. Believe me..if the shoe were on the other foot, he'd be screaming loudly! He's making a fool of himself and of you. I would seriously question his motives of 'why' he did this and reassess this relationship. Better yet, dump his ass and figure out why you are permitting this?
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