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writes:okay my boyfriend is in the tennis team at his school. we dont go to the same school, so we only see each other a couple of times a week. sometimes just once a week. like just this very week we were supposed to see each other on friday, but he told me he couldnt see me because he had to go play tennis. the problem is that im kinda hurt, because after friday, he's been talking to this girl that is in his team. they've become really close to each other. he's been talking to her a lot in his myspace. and she says that she enjoys hanging out him, that they should go out one time after one of their games. i dont know i feel hurt because he says yeah we should do that, it sound very fun. and you're cool to hang out with. i dont know what to think.then that girl's friend has been talking to my boyfriend too. and all she talks to him about is her friend. and he just keep asking more and more questions about her. its like he wants to know everything about her. he wasnt even like that when we first started talking. we've been together for over 10 months, and i love him a lot. he says he loves me too, but i dont know what to think. what should i do?should i tell him? or wait and if he keeps getting closer to her, then confront him about it?im soo confused. help me please. i just feel like crying soo bad.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (12 March 2007):
I would ask him why hes spending time with her when he could have spent it with you. Dr John is right, this could be the end. If it is you will easily find someone new and better. When you do you will wonder why you ever liked this guy in the first place. Why dont you make a special trip to go and watch him play tennis. If he looks unhappy about you being there or hes annoyed its probly best to finish it. I would definately confront him.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (12 March 2007):
 This can be such a painful time at your age. Guys seem to forget all sense of responsibility to one they are going with when they see someone else that tickles their fancy.
However, at this time in your life you are really too young to be looking for someone to stick to for good.
Mind you, I am not saying that you don't or shouldn't have feelings because you do and right now they are making themselves obvious to you.
The thing you may have to face is that you could lose him.
But understand that if you do, the pain will gradually subside and you will go on to find someone better for you eventually.
If this is the case just remember that if he does leave you he wasn't good enough for you.
The only thing you can do is stay available to him for the time being and maybe ask him about his intentions with the other girl and tell him to be honest so you can make the proper decisions for you. Hope it works out for you. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): you should confront him tell him how you feel tell him that it really really hurts you and then see what he says
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): Hey,
It sounds pretty bad to me. I'd be upset too if I were you. I think that you should talk to him, tell him how you feel about it and ask him to back off a bit. Try not to attack him or come off as too jealous. Just tell him that you're uncomfortable with the situation and that he should back off and that you would consider it cheating if he went out with her after a game like he has mentioned. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck!
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