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writes:I have noticed that my 35 year old boyfriend writes very slowly using an awful lot of concentration. He only writes in capital letters and I haven't seen him use joined up writing. He doesn't get letters the wrong way around so I don't think it is dyslexia. He sometimes reads words wrong too. On one occasion, his mum and I happened to be watching him when he was writing and he got quite defensive. I am not sure how to approach the subject with him without him getting defensive as it is obviously a sensitive subject to him. Do you guys have any idea what this could be? Should I correct him when he pronounces something wrong or would it annoy him? I'd really appreciate some advice on how to approach this with him. I love him very much so I want to understand what is causing this. Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (12 April 2009):
 If his mum also just notices, or does not know of this problem in the past, perhaps his eyesight needs to be examined. There could be other medical reasons too.
The approach of course, in asking him to go to the doctors, is to help him, not to see what is wrong with him. If he is is suffering from symptoms from things like motor-neuron disorders, you would want to have it diagnosed early so appropriate treatments can be taken in time. Even if his work does not require him to write often, undiagnosed and/or untreated poor eyesight could still endanger his life, or at the very least, reduce his quality of life.
My cousin, when she was small, used to have poor grades when she was in her 3rd grade. until her mum had her eyes checked. Turned out she had excellent memory/IQ, super sensitive hearing, but poor eyesight! lol
So, tell him that he needs to go for a check up, because (a) it is good to have regular check ups when you hit 35 or so, (b) it is good to have a good quality of life, and you just want him to have that. That way, hopefully he will not feel ridiculed thus will not be defensive about it.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Maybe he just had a bad primary education, I don't see how this could be any concern of yours, if he believes it a serious issue then he would have brought it up with you already. I shouldn't worry about it hun, however if it really is concerning you the best way to go about it is sit down with him and casually bring the subject up, or ask him if he wants any help with it, if he gets defensive just tell him that you only wanted to help and say that if it's something he doesn't want to talk about, you don't have to. Hope I helped. xx
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