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writes: I've been with my boyfriend since February. We live together in our own house (the bills are crazy) so I can see where things may be a little stressful on him. I mean he comes home to a clean house and dinner made everynight. Here is my problem. Everyday when I wake up and I see him it's like falling inlove all over again, I get that uncomfortable heart skips a beat type of feeling. Lately he just seems so disgusted with me. Like we used to have sex atleast twice a day and if i get it twice a week now I'm lucky. He used to care about the way I felt and always want to listen when something was bothering me and now it's like he rolls over and goes to sleep. I asked him the other day why he doesn't throw me up against walls and makeout with me anymore and his reply was "do i have to?"... what did i do to make our relationship go sour and how do i make him fall inlove with me again? I've bought alot of lingerie. i have tried everything possible to make him happy and i feel like i'm doing something wrong.. please help. my heart breaks more everyday. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2006): He works right? Do you? Maybe it's time to budget out your expenses, and cut down on things. Make yourself useful. Lingerie, exercise, and all that stuff that make u physically appealing is great, but that doesn't solve the immediate problems.
After you two have created a budget, cut down on the expenses, and made an effort to ease each other's troubles/worries, then you can save up for some holiday/vacation. Until then, make yourself more useful.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (3 August 2006):
 Maybe he's seriously stressed out with the money problem? Money problems really suck... They say money isn't everything which is true but it makes everything a whole lot easier! Maybe you should get a job? That might ease the burden
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (3 August 2006):
 Poor you! You have been making a big effort and he is just rejecting you. This is not all about you - it takes two people to make a relationship work. Perhaps you are trying too hard to be everything to him and he has got complacent and he has forgotten about how special you are. He gets sex when he feels like it, he isn't doing the housework or cooking and he knows you are so into him that he doesn't have to worry so much about misbehaving and that misbehaviour having consequences.
I understand that running a house is stressful but maybe you need to have a holiday for a bit - any relatives you can visit for a cheap break away? Time apart may make him realise how important you are to his life and it may make him appreciate you a little more!
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