My boyfriend says that he owns me and will say he wants to hurt me during sex. Is this the beginning of an abusive relationship?

A female age 30-35, *essssi writes:

I started dating my boyfriend coming up for a year now. I'm 25 and he's 45. From the moment we met we got on great and always love being in each others company. But a few months ago I had a night out and he went very weird with me saying he didn't want me to go and that I "Better not do anything". I have always been a loyal person so I took that quite personal. I did go on this night out but I felt very nervous about it and that I was doing something wrong even though I wasn't. When I did get in from that night he asked me so many questions and became angry the more he asked. He then said that he owned me and that I belonged to him and nobody else and i would do as he said.If he asked me to come see him he would expect me to drop whatever plans i had and put him first. Now every time I get asked to do something I get a weird sick feeling in my stomach because i don't want him acting like that again. He has said he ownes me quite abit fron that night and I just laugh it off. Also recently when we have sex he always says he wants to "hurt" me. And he likes to grab my throat aswell and says the only thing I should say during it is "yes sir" when I'm answering him. I do love him and I know he loves me but I don't know if this is the start of an abusive relation ship because i have never experienced one. Can anyone help me with this. Thanks.

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