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writes: my boyfriend doesn't want to recieve a valentine's day gift because he says i'm getting the worst attitude ever even though i get up every morning at 4:30 to make his lunch for work i get home from college and have to clean the house cook for him and do all the laundry what else does he want he says if i buy a gift he won't recieve it at all what should i do. should i still give him a gift how should i act around him and how can i control my attitude. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): I find that sometime when your in a relationship for a while the other person may start to take the things you do for them, for granted because they are used to it. Make sure that he is contributing to the relationship as much as you. I wouldn't get hime a gift...if you do it may just be wasted effort. He should be using this day to to put some effort on showing you how much he cares and appreciates you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): You are very thoughtful. Don't forget to think about your needs and whether your boyfriend makes you happy. You are putting him first, and he sounds very selfish. You give so much as it is and all he does is take, and take you for granted. I don't think you need to worry about getting him a gift, especially if he says he doesn't want anything. It should be time for him to do something nice for you. I think it's time to cut back on what you do for him. Only do things for him when it is convenient for you, not routinely. Then, when he doesn't have a lunch or clean underwear, he will realize how much you've been doing for him. He needs to better appreciate you, it is his attitude that needs to change.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (7 February 2006):
 Well from this post i think it is debateable who has the attitude problem. Part of you seems to know that this most likely isn't your fault. You do seem to do an awful lot for him and I am wondering what you get in return. I think you two need to talk.
It needs to be established what he means by your 'bad attitude' and he maybe needs to develop a greater appreciation of all you do for him. Hopefully when that is out in the open you will be able to work through this together. Dont let his attitude grind you down, if you do you will just make yourself more depressed. You deserve appreciation for what you do. Sorry if this wasnt the answer you wanted to hear but I hope it helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2006): if i were you i would make him a little card and make him a nice dinner then he cannot complain that you hav bought him anything, men can be so selfish this time of year but some can be really sweet, it is your decision whether u stay with a man who doesn't appreciate you,... all you can do is try good luck babe xxx
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