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writes: HiMy girlfriend used to be raped constantly by her ex and his mates/drug dealers. Shes not like that at all, shes a nice girl, and shes now really haunted by the experience, and sometimes its so bad that she flinches just at my touch...any ideas how I can help her?
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reader, xxhoney69xx +, writes (7 February 2006):
 she needs them to be arrested and counselling if holding her is upsetting her then just perheps hold hands gently or ask her first, you are already a great person for supporting someone who has been thru such a traumatic experience keep strong it'll be ok xxxx
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reader, ourchosenpaths +, writes (7 February 2006):
 The best medication for those kind of experiences, is time. People will never forget their early psychological conditionings to things like that. There will always be times when she might get flashbacks, or get really upset by touching etc. It might sound manipulative, but helping her associate passion with more positive things can psychologically reintroduce her to such experiences. If you feel sexually driven, be VERY careful, very slowly progressive with how intimate you are getting, and stay mindful of the little things that might make her upset. Maintain communication, and comfort her.
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