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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I love him with all my heart. I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. But I also have a very good friend that I like to talk to and hang out with and just have fun with him. My boyfriend says if I want to be with him I can't hang out with my friend anymore and I just really don't know what to do because I want to do both of them! Please help! I would really appreciate it! Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): dont turn out like shelly out of corronation street
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (12 July 2007):
Hi,
I agree with what the others have said - unless - If you are honest with yourself, have you bit a bit overly-friendly with your friend? Are you maybe flirty, or cuddly with him? Friendships with the opposite sex should be accepted by our loved ones, but we do have to be careful not to overstep the mark. If you can honestly say that you treat him no differently than you would your female friends, then you should put your foot down now.
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 NO! Your boyfriend can not tell you to not see your friends and threaten your relationship because of them. That is wrong and it is controlling and he can not tell you to do that. Spin it around on him. Tell him he can not see his friends at all and see how he feels about that.
Your relationship is a partnership. No one tells the other what to do. Adults are adults and do as they please. If he makes other controlling demands like that, LEAVE HIM! There are other men who will let you have a girls nite out, let you hang with mix gendered groups and etc. Just like your parents dont choose your friends this guy can't tell you to not see people you also have a friendship with.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (12 July 2007):
 Your bf has no right to tell you who you can and cannot hang out with.
You say you want to spend your life with him, do you want to spend your life being controlled?
Law down the law say you want to spend time with you friend and you will do when you want to. Dont be controlled. If he continues to, rethink this relationship n the long term as sometimes they never change their stripes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): you should hang out with your friends because becasue the will be there for you for ever if you dont be tray them and you and your boyfriend will brake up soone or later
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