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writes:well its like this. i had this relationship with fazmi at first. we had the affair for about ten or eleven months. we truly loved each other. but we had to break up because my mum got to know about our relationship and she made a big mess. but i tried to explain to fazmi that i dont want him to leave and that i need him in my life and so on. meanwhile fazmi's best buddies named pulasthi had started loving me. i didnt know that and neither did fazmi. but fazmi's best friend fahim had known about this from the time pulasthi started loving me. that was when fazmi's and mines beginning of the relationship. then after we broke up fazmi wanted to hook me up with pulasthi because as soon as we broke up fahim had told about pulasthi to fazmi. then fazmi used to call me and tell me that he's really a good guy and stuff like that. somehow he hooked me up with pulasthi. now i am with pulasthi. pulasthi asked me out 3 times. 3rd time i accepted him. in the beginningeverything was so good. i mean his attitude. the way he talked to me. he didn't get pissed off like now. but there were small issues because of facebook. now its ok because i deactivated my account as he told me. pulasthi had an affair before too with a girl called ishani. they had being going out for 4 years but to see she had cheated him. that's sad i know. but i am not a girl who cheats on guys like that. this was all yesterday today pulasthi is totally differant. i mean these days he's scolding me with all the slang he could when he gets pissed of. he sometimes even cuts the phone when he gets angry, he also said to me one day that im boring. he says that am not his taste and so on. but he swears to me that he loves me. im confused. im hurt... today when he called me he said that he still loves his old girl friend ishani. then i started crying on the phone. Then later he sent me a message telling that he was just kidding and all. and when i called him he was talking to me soo sweetly like never before and told me that hes really soorry to tell something like that for me.. he apologized.. i said ok.. and promised me he will never make that kind of jokes here after with me.. a little while ago he was texting me.. then i got late too reply for 1 message (about 10 mins i took) then he said i dont wanna disturb your work bye take care. i said i was bc i was sorry and all but no response. i asked him what he was doing then from about half an hour he messaged to me again that he doing nothing! i asked whether he is angry then to see he had switched off the phone. these kind of silly things we fight. why has he changed? i dont want him to act like a baby. what might he be meaning by "your boring"? im confused... what you think am supposed to do to make him feel happy with me...? we almost went to breakup. now its okay and everything is back to normal. but now hes telling me that he hates ishani and just at once tells me to call and then he says he wants to kiss me. he kisses through the phone and stuff. then yesterday after that call i put this status in facebook telling that he and me is forever.. everybody commented good on it and alot of them liked it. even his best friend. i was happy. then my bf has logged to facebook and saw that and he yelled at me telling that im trying to showoff and he doesnt want anything like that and all. if he really really deeply loves me will he yell at me like that? i mean is that a thing to scold me?! i got hurt alot... then i said "okay i'll remove the post" after that he acted cool. then he was telling me that loving me was all his desire and that's his duty and all. i was pleased but was in a question why he responded to the post like that.. what u think of him..? is he really mysterious as i feel...?
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reader, kaykay1989  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 I think that you need to tell him how you feel and if nothing changes then I would say break up. I don't see how saying you still love your ex girlfriend is a joke and I think he possibly still does love his ex and thats why he got touchy about the status you put on facebook.
You really have to think if you want to put up with this kind of behaviour because I don't think you deserve to be treated in this way.
Seems like he's staying with you because he's content and thats not a good reason to stay with someone. You will find someone your still young. Don't feel like you have to put up with it because you don't hun xoxoxox
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