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writes:I didnt know what else to do so i thought i will ask you all.I thought i was happy with having a baby and with my bf,but for the past weeks he has not been there for me at all since i been pregnant,and i feel really alone.I dont know anymore if he really loves me.He told me yestdrday that he do want the baby when i asked him,and i told him i know times are tuff for him but he still need to have time for me as well.Ive been really hurt and alone.I poured all my feelings out to him.We were suppose to meet up today, but once again it didnt happen, it turned out like usual,he didnt answer his phone when i tried to call.I am real mad rite now and hurt ,so i made up my mind that i am gonna go stay with my cousin in Florida. I told him yesterday this i was thinking about but he dont want me to go,he said he will not like it one bit.Well i am tired of being hurt and i have no support from him or my dad, jus my mom.So i left him a message an hour ago telling him my plans.I am going to also tell him that i am giving him just one more chance or i am gone with the baby.I am confused.He actlike he loves me then it seems he dont.And lately i dont believe he do, i even told him.This is a very serious matter to me so i am asking for good advice and help,i lovehim but i dont wanna be hurt and alone,he concentrate on making money and other things than i, it should be a balance and i am jus tired.Plz i am losing it,much advise will be appreciated.
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You poor girl. Being told your going to have a baby is a hard thing for most men to get there head around, it takes men a lot longer to adjust to it than it does women. It's not an excuse for the way he is treating you, coz you need him now more than ever, but i would imagne that all he can see @ the moment is how much his life is going to change. Ask him to tell you how he is feeling, i mean really feeling, not just he's happy about the baby, but more the way he feels about becoming a dad and how he thinks your life will be once the baby is born, his & your fears & hopes. Don't let him fob you off with " i'm happy about the baby" coz he will be feeling a lot more than that, probably scared & fightened, which i'm sure your also feel as well. It's the biggest life changing thing you can do. Tell him is alright to be scared. So bottom line you both need to talk about how each of you is feeling. Hope this helps & good luck.
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