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36-40,
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writes:Not sure how to word this so bare with me. Ive known my boyfriend for awhile as friends then we moved into dating and ive fallen for him big time which has surprised me as i never thought i would as quick as this. But while i love spending time with him i try and let us have time apart so we can see our own friends and all that. Yet, his best friend whom is also his flatmate is being a problem. Ive been told he likes me and i know his personality is very much something not to be desired (he constantly calls people names, insults people that sort of thing), i normally dont let what he says effect me and just let it pass. But ive gotten to a point where i really dont want to hear it anymore. How do i tell my boyfriend that i dont want to visit him at his house or out if hes with him which seems to be fairly often lately, as i dont want to be in a position where i will snap and could end up damaging our relationship as usually the best friend will say jump and he will ask how high. Any advice regarding the subject at all would be appreciated or if youve been in a situation where it seems theres three people in a relationship.
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reader, kenty139 +, writes (10 March 2010):
 I think you should tell your boyfriend, but dont go straight in to the converstation, just drop some hints about it, and your boyfriend should click on. if he dont sit him down and tell him, you like him, you just find him hard to get along with lately.
I have been in this situation about my boyfriend's best friend, and it i hard to say cos i know i hurt him, but then he began to realise that i wasnt trying to hurt him, i just wanted him to talk to him about how he was always getting in the way.
So talk to your boyfriend and he might say somthing, with out having to ruin anything.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Just talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him that his friend's behavior is bothering you and that he needs to have a talk with him. If they're really friends, he will. And his friend should understand and lay off. Just have a talk with your boyfriend or him. I'm sure things will be fine. Good luck.
-a.e
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