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writes:My boyfriend said he loves me, but doesn't know what love means. He also then said to me, "I want you to know you are the only girl I have ever had love for." These two lines hurt. How can he not know what it means; we've been together for almost three years. Also, why has he now said "I have love for you"? It just doesn't make sense. He has said he's in love with me, but also has said that he's not, since he doesn't know what that means. I think he's just extremely conflicted. But what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (28 April 2009):
At first I thought this was going to be a "stop analysing him" answer... But I think you are right to worry about this.
Love makes you crazy. It's like lust... you can't imagine the feeling but you know when your stomach does a flip because his hand brushed yours.
I think after 3 years if he's still not sure then you should be a little worried. But if I were you then I wouldn't talk to him about this as he'll just say you are over thinking and then say he's in love with you to shut you up.
I think you best bet is to try and protect yourself. Don't imagine that he's always going to be there and don't assume this will last for ever.
You have to be realistic and enjoy what you have now with him but don't push for marriage with a guy who doesn't know if he's in love. Make sure your contraception is full proof.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I didnt tell my boyfriend for 2 years that I loved him. Some people dont throw the word around until they really feel it. Maybe your boyfriend is experiencing a strong feeling for you, but has seen so many movies hes expecting bolts of lightening or something. Love can be pretty confusing when you have nothing to compare it to. My boyfriend was the first person I have ever loved and saying it to him was difficult as I didnt have any other feeling to compare it to. The longer we were together the more "right" the word felt and now im 100% sure i love him. I know its confusing for you right now, but if he told you this, I think its a good thing and maybe he wants to show you hes serious about you. Anyway good luck, guys are so difficult to read!
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