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writes:I love my boyfriend, But he doesn't know. He doesn't believe in being in love or falling in love, he actually hates the phrase "Falling in love", he doesn't think its real. We say all the time we like each other. But its killing me because I love someone who is incapable of loving me back, or refuses to love me back. But I know I haven't felt this way about someone in a long time, and he's confided in me that he hasn't had feeling like this about someone in a long time either. We live together, and we're happy together. I get a lot from people that they think its weird we live together and haven't even said the L word. And don't get me wrong I'm aware the word gets tossed around so much, but I know the way I feel towards him is something real. I'm not quite sure how to go about this, do I keep how I really feel about him to myself, do I just say it out of nowhere? Im confused whether or not to bite my tongue or just go for it and hope he doesn't run away from me saying it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 The real question to be asking yourself, is why you would make someone like him your boyfriend.
Once you figure that out, you will not end up in this situation again.
-Frank
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Actions speak louder than words in this case.
My husband, when we started dating told me "I don't say 'I love you'" and he doesn't. He has once or twice told me I love you (usually when drunk) and once he said "I love you too" when I had not said 'i love you' first.
And I was ok with it. Because I learned to read his actions.... how he treats me... how he looks at me, how he is my defender and protector... how he needs me.... and wants me...
The first time I told my husband I loved him (we were dating not living together yet) I said "damn you to hell" he laughed. He knew what i meant. now it's our words for "I love you"....
Also my husband told me point blank from day one that he did not believe in marriage that he never planned to marry. that marriage was outdated and stupid... guess he changed his mind...
IF you feel it... you should tell him... but remember we do not say "I love you" to hear it back.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Are you living as roommates now or does his actions say he loves you? Have you visited each other's parents, gone on a trip together? What are his views on marriage and children? I believe you need these before exchanging I love yous.
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