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reader, gradu8  +, writes (26 September 2007):
gradu8 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for you help.....I dont know what is going to happen now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): if you think you can get it out of your mind then you could try but boy did he get caught out!
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reader, penta +, writes (26 September 2007):
 If you can find a way to trust him again, and know that he's not going to do this again, then I say you can try again. But if you're going to be looking over his shoulder every time then you should leave now. You have to be in a relationship where you can relax. Unless you can trust him, you can't. Good luck.
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reader, gradu8 +, writes (26 September 2007):
gradu8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI answered his ad and found out that ir was definitely him. I confronted him. He apologizes.....but I am afraid the damage is done. I need to think about it for awhile....I love him soooo much, it is not going to be easy to let him go..... I think this is his first pursuit of relations outside of our relationship.... should we try to work through this?
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Really strange doing that without discussing it with you. I've met people this way, but only when my partner and I agreed it. He's way out of order
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): Tell him to buggar off!! If he did this without your consent then tell him you are not going ahead with it no matter what, he cannot make you. Be assertive and let him know how you feel. You are not his prisoner.
take care
xx
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reader, penta +, writes (25 September 2007):
Answer the ad to make sure it's him. Show up at the appointed time and blast him. (Print this Q&A out so that he knows this is what you're doing.)
If it really is him, when you have proof, leave him. The trust is gone and you're better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): Ask him about it.You will know if he is lying to you.Then its up to you whether that is acceptable in your relationship.
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