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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He is divorced...he got burned pretty bad we're 27/25 years old... Anyway...He was going through some of his old junk and got rid of alot of stuff, EXCEPT for, I found this out today, some nude pictures of his ex. He had then separated from his other pictures, in their own envelope...what does this mean?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 It's only a problem if he knows that he still has the photos and is hanging on to them, either to remember her or to blackmail or embarrass her at some future date - either way he would be hanging on to an old emotional connection and that would be an issue. BUT, having said that - I totally agree with Shandy Pop, if he is like most guys, he has NO IDEA what's in his drawers, closets or boxes. I'd bring him the photos and ask him to get rid of them. If they turn up again, THEN you have a problem.
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reader, elsie  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 theres only really one issue here and that's the fact there are nude pictures?were there any other ex's letters,photos etc.if they were on there own then i'd be pretty dam angry.burn or rip them up infront of him.his reaction will be your answer.if he needs them for some kind of kick then how sad is that?funny how ive never heard of women having these sort of pics?forgetful or not get rid of them.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 It hurts to find that kind of crap around. However, just like Irish said, blokes seriously are forgetful about these kind of things and I bet your guy had totally forgotten about those pictures.
I've been in the same situation as you and even after I asked my guy to get rid of the pictures, he managed to forget about it, so I deleted them for him 2 years later when I came across them again by mistake and let him know about it, and no, he wasn't angry about it at all.
So tell your guy that you were uncomfortable about the pictures and ask him to throw them away. It shouldn't be a problem for him since he loves you and he broke up with the ex a long time ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Blokes are serious at just forgetting stuff. My bloke is just the same. I have been with him for two years now and i still come across stuff to do with his ex wife. Don't take that too personally but i do think they should be gone by now. Point them out to him and ask him to get rid of them. If he wants to keep them - then you have a problem which needs to be tackled. Talk to him and tell him you are not prepared to share your relationship with them. let him know how you feel but i bet he has forgotten about them and will get rid as soon as mentioned.
Take care
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