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writes:SO I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO IS INTO HIS HOMIES MORE THEN ME I MEAN LIKE WE HARLY TALK AND WHEN WE DO HE AKES ME CRY OR GETS E MAD WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ABOUT 10 MONTHS and I DONT EVEN GET TO SEE HIM BUT LIKE I SAID HE ALWAYS ENDS UP GETTING ME MAD WHAT SHOULD I DO SHOULD I LET HIM GO OR KEEP HIM Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Is this really your ideal man? Someone who you rarely see and when you do, makes you cry and distressed?
Never settle for second best.
You're worth more than that. I think you know what you have to do, hun.
Get rid.
Take care xx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 August 2008):
Dump him and STOP SHOUTING!!!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Homies means the gang who hangs out with him. Yes I would dump him!!!
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Hi,
I understand its diffult feeling! Has he ever told you that he loves you?? -- I think what you should do now is be straight forward and tell how you feel. -- Sometime, he does not mean to hurt you or does not realized his action hurts you. I know that because i have been through the same situation and i am a very sensitive woman. I could get upset very easily. However, I did not wait but I told him how i feel. You could do the same, dont wait....sort it out. If he loves you, he will something.
If he does not care, then its time to let go. You are still young. Move on. There are alot of nice men out there. Good luck darling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Well, if he spends more time with his "homies" than you, then maybe he is not really interested in having a relationship right now.
Talk to him about this, and see what he says!
Good luck!
xx
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reader, lady davinci +, writes (7 August 2008):
I have come across way too many females in your situation, and I'm going to share something with you that works. I know it works because I have never been with a guy who has direspected me, and it's due to my nonchalant attitude. The next time he says something that makes you upset or makes you want to cry, do let him see you cry. If fact don't argue or throw a fit, simply remain calm, and leave his presence. Don't look at him or say anything. If he comes after you keep walking and tell him you will see him later.
You don't see it but through your actions you have conditioned him to think he can dog you out and there will be no consequences. If you don't like him hanging out with his friends so much, don't gripe about it. Instead, hang out with your friends a lot or occupy your time doing something else. Become so busy that it gets to the point where he's asking you when can you two spend time together. Make him feel like you have to fit him into your schedule and not the other way around.
The main thing I want you to see is your boyfriend has become comfortable in the relationship and feels like he has you. You need to take more control of your emotions and thoughts and do what you feel without losing your dignity in the process. Also keep in mind you're young and there are plenty more guys out there you will experience. If you can't stand being with your boyfriend dump him and don't feel bad about it. Trust me, when you look back on the situation you'll be wondering why the heck you didn't get rid of him sooner.
Oh yeah another thing you should asked him straight up, if he's no longer interested in you. Don't beat around the bush with it either. You need to communicate your thoughts to him, if he's nonresponsive turn the tables on him and follow my advice in the first paragraph. Still if nothing happens, dump him. You're too young to be tied down.!!!!
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reader, takeoutthetrash +, writes (7 August 2008):
You need to confront him about this. You need to ask him straight up are your friends more important or am i. and you need to tell him that he is making you feel hurt. If he keeps doing this to you then you need to kick him to the curb because you will find someone much better.
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