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writes:Hi i'll just get right to the point. My boyfriend of only 1 month is avoiding me. He stoped calling and hardly ever emails. The last time he emailed he cancelled a date so I called him to say it was all good and I would talk to him later. He acted fine on the phone he told me how pretty I was yadda yadda and said he promised we would get together soon. But he has not called me in 2 days and he avoids me on the internet cause we both have it so we show up when were online and I can see where he has posted stuff and it says he is offline on my friends list. So ok he wants to break it off so why not just say so? Why don't he just delete me from his friend list so he don't have to hide everytime he gets on the computer? Why the games? Should I just delete him? I don't want to give him the satifaction of letting him know he made me mad and hurt me so I have not deleted him or called even thou I'm dying too know what went wrong. Should I just delete him cause he is giving me the run around or should I just do nothing act like it don't bother me like I have been ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Maybe there is nothing wrong. Maybe that is his normal pace blowing hot and cold continuously. No contact for two days is not necessarily a bad thing. Just give him space, he may not feel like talking at the moment, and the more you push, the more he will run, and the more likely it is that your relationship will end. If you keep on texting him, phoning him, or e-mailing him continuously, it will scare him off. If he wants to contact you he will, but in the meantime, find a life for yourself. He will catch up with you if he wants you in his life. Some people like to keep their options open, so you have to make a decision on what you want to do, do you want friendship with him, a relationship or nothing. You can walk away if the relationship is emotionally destroying you. If it is, then find you, before you go into another relationship. Good luck :)
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reader, cnith +, writes (21 April 2010):
 well... you could continue playing little girl games with him or you could be a woman and ask him straight out what's going on.It could be he's having a major issue going on and can't talk to you or he could be a p*ssy in disguise.Either which way, I rather know now rather than later, don't you?Ask him straight out. If he avoids your dodges you say well, when you find out let me know but I'm going back to dating other people. Do this calmly. No reason to get hysterical.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): I hsve been in your predicament before. It sucks but sooner or later it happens to everybody. I would do what you are doing, you are exactly right, just kind of blow him off yourself and don't show him that you are mad or hurt. Don't look for him. Don't ask him questions. Just let him be. Judging by the way he's handling it, ts not even worth asking him whats up. He is probably doing this because he had a change of heart (which happens to the best of us) and doesn't know how to tell you. So he is avoiding you instead. Why he had a change of heart? Probably something stupid that he'll most likely regret later.He will probably come around as has been the case with me and the boys who have done this to me. They always feel bad at some point and try to make amends or at the very least apologise. You are very perceptive and you are not trying to fool yourself, which is cool. But yeah, I think you are handling it well, even though I know it stings. Just let it be. Something better will come along. Take care.
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