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writes:my bf of only a week has plans for us in the future he planned living together marriage and kids all ready im his first gf but i think he moving too fastany ideas how to talkabout this with himhe also calls me a name from the ps1 game final fantasy 7 he calls me aerishe tells me it because aeris was his dream girl until i came along not that i overly mind it, its just a bit creepy at time its gona crush him when i ask him to stophow can i tell him not to call me that with out hurting his feelings
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (1 March 2007):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question well i told him that i dont like the name because im worried he forgot my real name and i dont mind all these plans now because i think the idea of marriage and kids with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): You've got to tell him how you feel about this no matter what. You're his first girlfriend so he's not used to this romantic situation of boyfriend girlfriend but you've got to tell him otherwise you're stuck in this situation.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (10 February 2007):
 You could try telling him that calling you by the name of his fantasy girl (even if she is in computer form) makes you feel jealous of his feelings for her. He might think you're a bit nutty but he wouldn't b hurt by it I don't think.
As for the moving fast I get this. I once went out with a guy who told me he loved me, wanted to marry me and asked what we should name our kids on day three of us going out. It scared me and I told him so but he said his reason for it was that he didn't see the point in being in a relationship he didn't see the future in and this was just his way of establishing the future. Sounds like it could be something similar with your guy. The only way I found to deal with it is to talk about it sensitively. Try telling him that you really like him and hope you'll be together for a long time but that his plans for the future are freaking you out a little bit and you want to take things slow because you feel like it's a special relationship for you both. Hope this helps.
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