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writes:Hi can someone help me, i am in desperate need of an answer. My boyfriend of nearly six years has for the past week stopped answering my calls and wont give me a reason why! ive text him, phoned him and left voice messages but no reply. I know nothing has happened to him coz he still goes to work and people i know have seen him out and about but by himself, he always told me if he didnt want to be with me he would tell me and he also spoke to one of my friends boyfriends and he told him he will phone me but still hasn't. Do you think i should stop calling him and txtin etc and wait for him to call or move on coz im really hurting?
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reader, sazza86 +, writes (17 January 2008):
sazza86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who has written to me all your answers are helpful and kind. im not gonna phone or call him anymore, i'm just gonna wait and see if he contacts me. i will let you know if he does xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): i know how you feel although me and my man was only 2 years...my best friend has 4 years with hers so 6 years is pretty damn good...i swear i just went through this but i eventually stopped calling stopping texting and took my mind off of it...i know its hard..trust me..but he will then have a stronger urge to call you..or if you can't help it...wait a while and then call(probably atleast 5 days w/o any contact preferably 2 weeks if he doesn't contact you by this time his mind has moved on...but you can call one last time after that and if he doesnt pick up...its most likely over...but what i learned is there's always a chance you can get back together..but definitely give him space i know it may hurt at the time being but it's really worth it in the future
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (16 January 2008):
 He is avoiding confrontation for a reason.
You deserve to know where you stand, and after 6 years, the least he could do is to show some consideration.
I am surprised of the lenght of relationship, sounds like you were not that close.
If it was me I would go to his house, and knock on the door to ask what is the matter?
Does he suffer from depression? Other than feeling ashamed about something, not having the courage to talk to you about it,either way he should tell you something.
Perhaps you could send him a final text:
"Talk to me, I would like to know where I stand"
Then, if no answer, I am sorry to say that you should not pursue this as you cannot force him to face the truth whatever it is.
I heard this the other day "The man worth your tears will not make you cry" Unknown
Not one to add quotes but seems appropriate here.
I wish you all the joy in the world, you deserve to be happy with someone who appreciates your love and can love you back the same way.
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reader, CaliGurl  +, writes (16 January 2008):
Yes I agree with Baby Duck, he's probably confused about his feelings at the moment and is attempting to sort them out. And he could at least make this known to you! But I would stop trying to contact him because he will eventually call you. For right now that's all you can do, you will have to deal with whatever comes next from him when he is ready to tell you. I would just mentally prepare myself if I were you because you really don't know what he's going to say when the time comes.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 i know this is such a hard place to be in, but constantly calling him and chasing him is only going to make him feel smothered. leave him be for a few days, and if there is still no word, call over to him, and just tell him that you want a straight answer about why he is doin this, because not telling you anything is more hurtful than telling you the truth. just give him a little time, and see if he comes around. he may just need some time to be with himself, he may not, but you will find out. just try not to call him all the time as this will only make things worse. i hope this helps, im just an email away
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