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writes:I've been with my bf for almost 3 and a half years and I'm having some issues with him not responding to my texts in favor of facebook. I'm aware that this seems petty but let me explain. I will notice a lot of times that I'll text him and he doesn't get back to me for a long time and I go on facebook and there he is liking pics, commenting, watching videos. All from his phone! And hes on facebook at the exact time that I texted him. This really hurts my feelings and I'm at the point where I'm furious about it. I mean how hard is it to put me first over a social networking site??We've discussed the problem and he agrees that it is disrespectful to do this, however he claims that he never sees my texts. He says he would never ignore my texts on purpose. I'm not just texting casual stuff, sometimes its something I need an answer to. I just can't stand it anymore. I'm 24 and he's 25, I feel that hes too old to be on facebook constantly. I know this is silly but I feel like this is starting to wear the relationship down and I'm not sure I can deal with it much longer. What can I do to make him stop doing this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Utopia would be not having any social media and going back to the old fashioned telephone.Since that is not the case these days, I would suggest calling him first and see if he responds.Facebook can get so engrossing and actually is a time stealer. Ever see the commercial where the daughter's parents only had like 20 friends on their Facebook pages and weren't responding to her Facebook? They were out living there life and doing things together while the daughter was sitting in front of her computer and "liking" someone's cute puppy picture. That about says it for Facebook.Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Call instead of texting. He cant make excuses not to answer the phone as he would hear it or see your name flash up when it rings.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 January 2013):
If he has an android phone you can install an app that has a pop up with your text on it. There is no app that it won't interrupt. So even if he doesn't hear it he'll see it.
It's "go sms", there are others as well. I phones probably have something similar.
Tell him that if he installs this app there won't be any more excuses for him not texting you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): What you can do to stop this from happening is simple, if it is important and you need an answer right away, call him and ask him whilst talking on the phone instead of using text messaging. I personally find it extremely rude of people assuming that everytime I get a text I should simply drop everything to answer it. If it is so important that you need to know something, then use a more personal means of communication and call and you will get your answer. I do not think that he is being rude or disrespectful of you, he is simply engrossed in what he is doing, and getting a text message is not the be all and end all of the world. It can also be said that you are being disrespectful to him by expecting him to drop everything everytime you send him a text message. Talk about it and find a compromise and ask him if he would prefer you to call him if it is important rather than texting, and work it out this way. Good luck, I hope it works out.
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