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writes:My boyfriend of 11 months may have lied to me about something.I was at a party today and one of his friends whos step dad worked with my boyfriend and I were talking and we got to talking about my boyfriend and he said that my boyfriend got fired for not calling in when he didn't go to work.My boyfriend told me that he got fired because the people said they didn't need him anymore that there were too many electricians working there..What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): This is me the girl who wrote it. I took your advice and told him what he said.. He said that that guy doesnt know what hes talking about. ( which I could believe because the guy isn't exactly the most honest). He said that the guy has told him that he thinks im hot and stuff and that knowing how he is that he might have been trying to get me to break up with My boyfriend so that He could go out with me (which by the way wouldnt happen ever). When I thoght about what he said it seemed like he was telling the truth cause his friend had told me not to go and tell my boyfriend cause he would get mad at him and stuff. To me the friend wouldnt care if someones mad at him hes just not that type of person he likes to start things. I just really hop that my boyfriend is not lying to me. I really have no reason to not trust him hes never just lied to me about anything hes never cheated on me or anyone. So I think I might just believe him unless I somehow find out he was lying from a more trustworthy source. DO you think this would be a good idea?
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 He was probably just embarrassed and didnt want to look irresponsible so he made out it wasnt his fault and there was nothing he could do about it. He is probably very disappointed in himself and doesnt want you to be disappointed in him too. Being fired is like a rejection and it can be hard for some people if they feel ashamed and worry what people closest to them will think. He took the easy way out when he really should've faced up to the consequence of his actions.
But if you feel you want to say something to him then just tell him what his friend said and ask why he would say something like that? Make sure you dont say it in an accusitive tone though or he will feel under attack and shut down completely. Just tell him you are confused about why he said that when you had thought he was let go because they were over staffed. And tell him that for future reference, you dont appreciate being lied to.
Brooke
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