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*erplexedTeen
writes:My boyfriend of six months told me yesterday that he thought we were going to to fast. In myself I knew we were, I mean he asked me to marry him a day into our relationship and we were having phone sex before we knew each others name (we met online). Though that wasn't the most astounding. after we had calmed down from the heated argument that resulted from the comment he told me he wasn't sure he loved me. He kept saying how he didn't know how to tell me, that he's been feeling this way for the past month and that the distance was hurting us as well (we live 2 hours away from each other). Then he told me he loved me as a friend and wasn't sure that he loved me as more as well as telling me he didn't know what love was. Then before he hung up he said he didn't want to break up with me that he cared for me and didn't want to hurt me. I don't know what to do or think. My friends say that he's just confused and he doesn't know what he's feeling. I just don't know, please give me advice.
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reader, PerplexedTeen +, writes (16 January 2010):
PerplexedTeen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both. After reading your answers he and I talked about it and well lets just say there will be no more thinking about a relationship with him. Yes we broke up and a kind of stupid thing on my part but I suggested we just be friends with benefits. ate funny thing is our we work out much better this way than we did before.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 January 2010):
Yes, it's over. The problem was it was built upon sex, not a relationship. He has just moved on because it wasn't real love. Spend your time getting to know a guy first, before doing anything else.
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (14 January 2010):
 Never stay with anyone that says they are unsure in the love you. Let them have there space for a long period of time for them to figure it out on their own.
I learned this from a lot of years and a lot of heart ache. Save yourself the pain and time. Tell him, his feelings are understandable but you want to be with someone thats sure. You owe that to yourself.
It also sounds like a passion high relationship, which isn't always bad but in this case it might have been the only thing this relationship was running on. He also might be the type who gets in the habit of throwing himself into relationships and falling out of love just as easily as he fall into it. I dated someone like that and it was a consistent pattern with online dating.
I say cut your losses. Its up to you NOT him.
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