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writes:First off I would just like to say I'm not the type of girl that stops and wants to take pictures every 5 seconds. I'm not that way at all, I actually kind of don't like taking pictures much because I don't like the way I look.. but anyways besides that, I have been wanting to take a few pictures of my boyfriend and I because if we stay together (which we do indeed plan on doing as of right now) I want to have memories to look back on, but he never EVER is up to it.. I don't know what to do. I don't want to bother him with it, but I really wish we could have at least a few pictures of the two of us, because right now we really have hardly at all. =\ I'm not sure if it's just because of the fact that he's self conscious about himself as well, or maybe he just doesn't want to be in a picture with me.. I don't know, I really hope not.. :( Any advice on what I should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss Misunderstood +, writes (8 May 2011):
Miss Misunderstood is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have explained to him why I want to have a few pictures with him, but he never really seems to acknowledge it. He says it's because I used to be the same way about pictures with him because I hated the way I look (and still do) but eventually I convinced myself that it was silly and I am actually up for it now. I guess it's his way of getting me back maybe?? I'm not sure, but this has been going on for a longg time now. I get the point, I was stupid, I wish we could just move on. =(
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Obviously you love each other and if you get the impression he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he's obviously very in love with you too. A lot of people are self-conscious about themselves and maybe they just don't like the way they look in pictures. Some people just aren't photogenic. I doubt it has much to do with you at all, unless he has a lot of pictures of himself or others. Does he? Then that would be something to worry about. If not, you don't need to worry. Just try snapping a random picture of him by surprise and see how he reacts.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Brightstars +, writes (8 May 2011):
 I know what you mean. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 6years now, and he's still iffy about pics with me.I asked myself that plenty of times, why doesnt he. I realized i know this guy, i said to myself. and i know that he hates his complexion. Or he has to have a good haircut, if not a new era hat. Like i thought we females were just like that. I have to have my hair done, and make-up on, even outfit right for a pic. And he acts like that , but i didnt understand that, sooo i told him ....But when we do take a pic my bf wants to take a lot, then only pics the ones that are good to him of us. Like ok. So dont get worked up yet. When we dont know the facts yet. we can't come to conclusions. Remember that saying.."if you loose,or misplace something, dont automatically think someone stole it." Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2011): i don't think it has anything to do with you like he doesn't want to take pictures with you for a reason, i think he just is self conscious about being photographed , maybe if you really do want those memories you can talk to him about it and explain exactly what you wrote there you want memories of you and him you want a picture in your wallet etc , he'll open up to you and you'll get your answer.
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