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writes:Hey everyone so I've been having the longest problem with my boyfriend. Here lately my boyfriend won't go with me any where he says its not true but every time I've asked him to go anywhere with me he says no. Now my mom is in the hospital and has been for about a week and i haven't asked him to go with me since she has been in there. And today I asked him to go and once again he said no he said he don't like hospitals but any time his friends are in there for whatever reason he goes with no problem. But I always have to sit and beg him. He wants to stay home all the time unless its for him togo to work or go hangout with his friends. Is this normal? Or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 November 2014):
 You said lately this has been happening so I would be tempted to ask what changed. Maybe he got longer work hours or is stressed out from somewhere. It sounds like you've been dating for a while, and he doesn't see your mom as a future in law, someone he would care about. That's what I would feel. He sees his friends as people to chill with while you and your family as people who would give him more stress. It is common but it's not something you should have to accept if you are not satisfied with the little attention he gives you. What you should do is stop asking or initiating plans with him and see how much effort he puts in himself. That would tell you if the relationship is to go on. Some guys are bad at breaking up and would become withdrawn until you pick fights with them to find out what's wrong. You don't have to be dramatic. Just stop planning things with him and don't count him as a family member.
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reader, MSA +, writes (16 November 2014):
 Have you asked him why he wants to stay home all the time? Is he on the computer? Playing online games? Studying? Tired from work? Or just hibernating as it's cold outside?
You need to communicate - talk to him and ask him why. Once you understand the reason why, maybe you both can compromise a little to make things work and more pleasant for the both of you.
Good Luck!
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