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*alishia
writes:My boyfriend and have been living together for year and he has never told me that he loves me. He never shares that much stories and sometimes tells me as a joke to go out with a guy who is ur age coz he is 26 years older then me. For me I don't care about age coz i love regardless, in my head there are questions does he love me or not I don't know because he is realy good to me? I realy need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, falishia +, writes (27 June 2011):
falishia is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you guyz, am goin to talk to him coz i cant juz keep on wonderin does he love does he?
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (27 June 2011):
Hi,
Love happens between people regardless of age, but I think you can learn something from what he said.
'Go find someone your own age' even as a joke may be his way of trying to tell you that he cannot and perhaps will not conform to what you want him to be and that he feels you may be wanting something he feels is beyond him - I can't give you what you want but perhaps someone your age can (in being your age, will be similar - his logic)
So, hes saying (perhaps) that you have to learn to be with him and accept him for what he's giving you now if you do want to be with him and don't want to meet someone younger and more likeminded.
Ultimately, the important bit is that right now you are wondering at the moment, 'does he love me? does he love me after living with me for a year? Does him being really good to me smybolise he loves me and therefore is his way of showing he does?'
But honestly, we can chat and chat and guess, but thats all it will be.. guessing and chatting.
In order to know the REAL answer, you've to adopt the principle I learned and treasure.
"Only the person your really wondering about can answer the questions you seek answers for in relation to them".
He is the only one that really knows if he loves you.
So whilst we can guess and persume things and try to figure it out based on how he acts and what he does say and do, ultimately, you have to ask him outright and in all seriousness, if it is bothering you (which it is)and you want to know.
He owes you an answer because, in living with him and being with him, you are entitled to know where he stands in relation to you.
I really hope this helps and that you do talk to him.
Let me know, please, how it works out.
Best of luck,
x
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