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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My bf has recently moved in with a guy mate of his. Problem is I don't like the guy mate. He ignores me, won't look at me, rarely talks to me and says things to my bf like "pity you have a gf else we could *insert activity here*". I'm a really nice person who has never done anything for him to dislike me, and their other friend adores me. It stops me wanting to go round to visit my bf and it also puts me on edge, I feel like I have to pussy foot around the guy incase I make him dislike me more. Help!!
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reader, rivi  +, writes (23 December 2010):
Well people can take a dislike to others for no obvious reason : don't expect to reason it out with your bf's roommate or for him to change.
Solution is just never go round there again. Meet the bf at yours or outside generally - if he says why don't you come round just explain you do not feel relaxed where you're not wanted.
I would suggest not to make a big thing of it - don't ask yr bf to sort out the friend or whatever - any purported dropping of his hostility would be fake, and you still would not feel relaxed.
Just rise above the hostility : if you get on well with your actual bf why worry about his male roommate.
I don't subscribe to the idea that couples have to do absolutely everything together or have everything in common.
Just let it be; stop worrying about it. Enjoy your bf.
Report back on your findings in due course.
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