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writes:The first encounter which lead me to believe I have something to worry about is when he was at his brother's house and they were there.He was talking to me and he told me to hold on.They were talking about the fact that he has my name tattooed on him and what if he cheats on me?That my relationship won't last and that he stupid. That he might think he loves me but he doesn't. If they were me, they wouldn't hold on. (Which makes me feel like they're calling me stupid, that they're talking to him and I'm just hanging on the phone)He tells me he doesn't talk to them, but he couldn't tell me HOW they got his number. I also see tht everytime he logs on to face book. One of their chats is always open and also that he comments their relationship statuses. Seriously, what is that? He asked one of his friends if they were hooking up with her. If it's nothing, why is he so engrossed with them?After this, I told him I wasn't comfortable with him talking to them because they had no respect for our relationship and he seemed to enjoy the attention from them (which he denies. but who has time to sit there and justify themselves to "little girls" as he calls them. Today, I found his friend asking him, why he said to one of them that he called them "cold water" (in his language it's an insult"My opinion is, these "little girls" must love his attention and SEE that he WILL talk about about our relationship with him. Might I add that he said to me that one of them like him and everytime he talks about me, she gets pissed off. I said to him, how does he know if he's never around her (which is what he told me) and "That day" (?????) It seems to me that he does it on purpose... Why is he letting them talk crap about our relationship?? His brother's girlfriend says to him all the time "You're a cheater" and I think I have reason to believe that he's been giving them a lot of attention and looking for some in return. If they're such little girls, why do you even need to be in contact with them? They must be something special.I asked him about all of this. He told me that before THEY offered to do a video of them dancing because he made a song and he wanted a dance to it. Which is true. But he sugar coated.He doesn't know that I've seen and I KNOW that he shows off. He asked them to do a video of them dancing for his video.I told him that he should have fun with his little girls and I don't have time for this s****. And ended the call.He hasn't called since. I'm starting to feel like I over reacted. But he lied to me saying he DOESN'T know how they got his phone number. Now he's telling me that they've got it incase they wanna get in contact with his bro's girl (why though? He doesn't have anything to do with them?). Then he tried to say it was because of the video. Then he says he doesn't know how they got it... : /I also have proof that he spent the whole night at his bro's party, talking with these girls.Am I over reacting or should I wait for him to call and then see what the next step is? Is it because he loves the attention or what? I'm lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): So far all you have is Paranoia and suspicion.
Do you have ANY proof whatsoever that he has done anything but mildly flirt and talk with the other women? It could be it's just a crush on their part and he is simply flattered.
People flirt. Relationship or no. Most people have the wisdom to leave it at that, because it is flattering and makes interactions fun, yes. But taking it further ruins lives.
You need to sit down with your boyfriend and get ALL the facts straight. No judging. No lying. And no lashing out, verbally or physically.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 It isn't clear whether your boyfriend is cheating on you or not, but I think you have every right to be concerned. You've already caught him lying about these girls and he doesn't seem to care about your feelings. I'm sure your bf enjoys the ego boost he receives from these girls... and he may very well have hooked up with one of them. Why does his brother's girlfriend always call your boyfriend a cheater? Have you ever asked her about this? That could be her way of letting you know he's been unfaithful. Don't let these "little girls" get to you. If your boyfriend won't cease contact with them for the sake of your relationship then I would encourage you to move on. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Let us know what you decide to do. Good luck!
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