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writes:my boyfriend seems to be more in love with his computer than me. this has only been a recent thing but im really getting angry and frustrated over it. when i try and make plans with him its like im bothering him and he cant even talk on the phone with me without me hearing his keyboard. i make it really obvious how rude it is and how upset it makes me but he does not seem to get it. he can be such a perfect boyfriend sometimes but when he does this i feel so unimportant, insignificant and boring. is this like a common thing or is he pushing it? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I can relate to your plight. I would suggest that you ask him to do something with you(like dinner or a movie perhaps?)
It takes two to make a relationship but yet sometimes with all the external stimuli that the net offers, we need to be reminded once in a while that it is not the real world. I certainly hope that you can remind him of this.
Then during the dinner simply bring it up to him that this bothers you. I cant guarantee that he will understand it, but if he loves you he certainly should be able to at least acknowledge that this may be a problem on his part.
If not, I suggest you find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): Eurgh I am in the same situation.I did get him to stop being on the computer when i was on the phone to him but only because I hung up on him every single time I heard it.He eventually got the message and apologised.However if your man really loves his computer he wont leave it.I now live with my boyfriend and hes on it constantly.Its annoying but i cant exactly tell him to get off it.talk to him and tell him you really find it incredibly rude to be on the pc and cant he leave it alone and sit somewhere else in the house/flat where a pc is not present so you two could have an actual conversation without hearing `tap tap tap` all the time? keep telling him and he`ll get it eventually.i like the idea of unlockable achievements of emilyanswers though and id definitely try that.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 Get a screwdriver and take the fuse out of his plug.
ok, may be a bit flippant but seriously, he needs to realise What's more important.
Guys need their own time just like women do but if it's getting in the way of your relationship then it's time for him to get a grip and get a balance-or he may end up losing you.
Turn off his computer one night, ask him if he'd rather go to bed with you or play with his mouse...
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reader, Hermetica +, writes (9 July 2009):
Lass what would you prefer?a boyfriend who likes computers or a boyfriend who likes other girls.A computer is merely a tool,it's what he is doing with it that matters.Do you know?May be you can get involved.I assume you have access to one yourself!Stop griping start fighting woman!Are you going out with a geek or a man?If he's a man,get him focused on you,if he's a geek buy a mainframe...same result!Hermetica
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 July 2009):
He is very much pushing it.
Why do you keep chasing him?
If he is on his computer then leave him to it. Don't speak to him for a few days.
Either that or just email him a list of unlockable achievements.
50g - Left the House
100g - Took Girlfriend Out for Dinner
20g - Had a Conversation
Good Luck!! xx
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