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writes: My partner is currently serving a prison sentence for violence towards me. At first he was being very apologetic saying it would never happen again and please dont leave him. Now he says to me that he doesnt trust me not to go to the police again and that im not sorry that he is in prison. He has also lied to the authoritys about where he comes from and has told them his parents are dead when they are alive and he speaks to them regularly. He comes from a different country. Is that a bit sick to lie about something like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): If he thinks you will go to the police again, then that means he is planning on being violent towards you again. Please get away from this man, he sounds very scary and dangerous and I'd worry about how far he could go...
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 He was violent enough towards you to end up in prison, and he's still making threats and manipulating you. This is your chance to get out. Why are you still calling him your boyfriend and waiting for him?
The bottom line is that he can't control his temper. He may kill you next time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 July 2013):
 what's more concerning to me is that you consider someone who abused you enough to be in jail as your boyfriend.
when he gets out and comes to beat you... will you let him?
clearly he is a liar
he is an abuser
he has no respect for authority or you or his parents
it's not "a bit sick" to lie about his parents and if he speaks to them regularly I'm sure the authorities know he's a liar. this means that when he kills you he will lie about it and get off... is that what you want?
honey this man is bad news and a danger to you....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 July 2013):
 You really need to cut the contact FULLY with this guy. Stop letting him tell you WHAT you may or may not think.
As for his parents being dead or not, yes that is sick, but it should SHOW you what kind of guy he is.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 July 2013):
 Erm its a bit 'sick' that he is violent towards you, and then tries to turn it back on you claiming he doesnt trust you to not go to the police again. That's basically him saying "when I get out of prison I will be violent towards you and I expect you not to go to the police this time".
This man has issues. Many issues. If he has been violent once and is now trying to pile the guilt on you, then chances are he will be violent towards you again. It is very worrying that he lies to the police about his background, that suggests to me he probably is not legally entitled to live in your country so is hiding his real information so they cannot trace him and send him back to his home country. He might even be trying to use you so he can marry you to gain permanent rights to live in your country.
I think you need to run a mile from this man - there is no excuse to stay with a violent abusive man no matter how much he begs you not to leave him. He clearly cannot be trusted, if he's lying to the police chances are he is lying to you too.
Have some self respect and dont allow yourself to waste your time with an abusive man, you deserve better.
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